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writes: my girlfriend thinks that its a mans duty to please a woman and that all she has to do is lay back and enjoy. for the one year we have been together i do everything oral sex and romance. she just lay there, do nothing and let me do what ever i want. it was fine with me in the beggining but lately i am beggining to think that i am making love to a dead body. do you guys think i am asking too much? or that this woman got to fix up? help!!!
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (10 October 2006):
 Is she selfish in other ways? Relationships are a 2-way thing, and EVERYTHING should be shared! Give AND take.. Any other way, resentment will build up over time and the rocky road lies ahead!
Ariel is right - communicate!
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reader, ariel  +, writes (8 October 2006):
 It sounds like the communication between the two of you is a hit and miss affair.Maybe the reason she just lies there is because she is afraid of doing something wrong.You want her to do things to you,the best way is to tell her what you like.Make sure when you do discuss her lack of involvement that you talk when you are not tired and fed up from a long day and that you don't criticise.
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (8 October 2006):
oh gosh that's me right there. I always just lay there and I have actually thought about the same thing, that my boyfriend feels left out, but I don't know what to do to him besides oral sex. I feel selfish.
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reader, Katylouise +, writes (7 October 2006):
Your not in the wrong darl! sex or making love should always be two ways if someone wont give as much as they take then whats the point. I sometimes feel like more of a giver and dont recieve as much as id like which sort of makes it a turn off dont you think. Head to ann summers with your girlfriend next time you go shopping together and sugggest buying some edible goodies for you both dont be afraid just ask!
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reader, helpful girl +, writes (7 October 2006):
 it is not a mns job to perform nor be romantic all the time and no you are not asking too much. in a ralationship it is a 2way thing with everything! thats the whole point of commitment, if it was a mans job then why do woman go round seduceing men? sex and romnce is better when 2 are takeing part not 1. maybe explaining these things to her may make her see the point in why she has to make it a 2 way ralationship and also if you carry on doing all the work on your ralationship the stress wilol build up in your part and 1 day you wont be botherd to do anything then what will happen your ralationship will fall apart and it wont be your fault.
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reader, ali1987 +, writes (7 October 2006):
 i think you need to talk to her, after all it takes two to tango, your not asking too much at all. Sex is about pleasing one another not just her. try talking to her, get some advise from sex books on how to spice things up. maybe she will get the hint, try buying her some sexy underwear. if all this fails then maybe she isnt the right girl for you hunny.
all the best
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