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I feel like he is playing a ton of mind games...but is he just shy with girls?

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Question - (7 January 2014) 1 Answers - (Newest, 22 March 2014)
A female United States age 26-29, *amBrax writes:

1. Starting in Oct '11 when he moved in.

2. Took him seriously three months to even talk to me.

3. ALL of 2011 when he DID talk to me the VERY few times, he would pick small stupid fights with me, not even a normal conversation.

4. He gave me his glasses and for me to hold them.

5. He fixed my ring when it shattered all over the place.

6. Every time I would leave something at my desk (which is in front of him) he would take it, every time I confront him about it he smiles and says no (liar), I keep asking and smirks and gives it.

7. Apparently he used his friend which happened to be a girl, and kept pretending to be together to get me jealous (that's what she said) also said HE said I loved him which is stupid, HOWEVER that was '11. TODAY I don't at ALL see that anymore what so ever. He has improved a lot in not cocky and thinking he was all that and super almost conceited in himself. It just disgusted me. It was REALLY bad.

In a weird respect though the friend that happened to be a girl said he was NOT like that until he got really hurt and the girl stomped on his feelings like he had none. She said it was sorta cute the relationship that they had, but went for another guy when he told her to wait cause he wasn't ready and she was impatient and found another and he was really hurt :( kinda felt bad.

8. He did more poking me then really at all talk to me or tug my pony tail.

9. He would compliment about my hair, clothes etc. He paced back and forth and he finally said "You look very/really pretty tonight" then 6 months later he leaned really close behind me and said "you look good today".

10. Then I guess we started emailing back and forth but only like 3 sentences at the max for a little over three months.

11. He had this NEED :P to come up behind me and take both of my hands and play them like a puppet while I was talking to someone.

We didn't speak for like a year '12 because he was busy with work, his health got REALLY bad cause how much stress (parents told), life got in the way and his dad is really strict (you know being a parent and all)and has with him because he is the youngest of his sons :P I was busy taking care of my mom and with school. Really not a good year for us. Didn't speak a WORD to each other.

12. In March '13 we started emailing (he started) again for a few days but stopped. Then a few days later he said he had a weird but funny at the same time type of question and he has been wondering for some time. I said shoot and he came back "do you have a crush on me?" I said how long he said six months after he moved in. I said no and (I'm getting to the just of it) and then he said he was RELIEVED that I didn't have a crush on him. Weird.

13. Again just the just of it, he's made comments in this year such as he

- loves having me as a friend.

- if he makes fun of me he doesn't mean to hurt my feelings and if he does please tell him.

- I said "...sorry if I offended you" and he said "you can never offend me."

- He told me if anyone ever saw HIM give me a hug he would never hear the end of it.

- I admit that I have a flirtatious personality and working on it because it's jacked up. (Cause he asked what kind of things girls said about him, so I told him some stuff)

14. Was literally insistent on buying me something for a promotion that I got in '12 after I said no like three times.

15. (BIG ONE) Had this ask page and I had the link up on my Facebook and HE was the only one that could see it so ALL of the random questions I KNOW came from him cause no one else had it :P I didn't tell him until later but he denied every question and I KNOW it was him :-/ He asked questions such as

"Do you like anyone right now?" And I said

"even if I did I wouldn't tell you" he came back with

"so you're saying you don't have a crush right now?" And I said

" I'm not saying that either." Then he said

"that's a yes" he also asked questions "are you a type a girl who would go up to a guy or wait till a guy came to you?"

16. He told me over online that my ask page was hilarious, but I knew all of those WERE him...and he was online one night and I was talking about him but used N for the guy and asked if he was N guy (later) and I said yes. THEN he said on ask.fm "You should just tell the guy you like him already!" And I said that he didn't say anything and if he did he should have already said something and he's at 4:00am in the MORNING saying "there you go again with the guy saying something first :p jk but seriously..."

17. But I ADMITTED of having a small thing (or a crush whatever) on him and he didn't come back or anything...but the next time I saw him, we talked...again alot of eye contact. Went to a movie, invited me and my friend...friend couldn't make it but saved 11 seats with his guy friends (doesn't look at me at ALL when he's with them) but out of every seat...he sits RIGHT next to me.

But says things like "I don't want to lead you on" :(

18. When we talk he never breaks eye contact...has this really weird glare. For instance...yesterday he looked, and I don't know how long he was staring or looking or if we ever turned at the same time...but it was in class and we kept the eye contact for what seemed like the longest 4 seconds ever.

I REALLY need info! D: This is sad! I don't know! Should I wait? Is he shy with girls? I have NO problem being friends with him...seems like he makes a good friend...but as something more...I feel like he is playing a ton of mind games. Any thoughts???

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