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I feel I'm not a priority for him and that he prefers to spend time with his family and friends than me...

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Question - (17 January 2006) 1 Answers - (Newest, 18 January 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:

Hi, I'm kinda annoyed, it's stupid really but I feel pretty hurt.

My bf and I have been in a long distant retionship for 2years, and he'll be comming home soon, and when I spoke with him, He wants to catch up with his family and friends, thats great but it feels as though there'll be no time for me, as he'll be going back shortly. I know that family is important But I feel as though im not important when it comes to his family, when were on the phone he says tthat he wants to spend tht time with me, and now that hes coming I Feel as though ive been tossed aside. someone plaese make me feel better please. I feel hurt as though Im not good enough for him and that his family have priority over me and we have spoken about getting married and kids, but know i've been brushed off and i FEEL hurt.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2006):

Hi there

Well i was in the same sort of situation in a previous relationship.

It is great that he wants to spend time with family and friends, but he should definitely be making time for you too. If he's not, then it certainly isn't fair on you. I would think that any man who really loves a woman and misses her when they are apart, would not be able to wait to come and see you!

I would wait and see what he does when he comes home. If he goes to see family and friends first, then that's ok, but i'm expecting that he will come to see you too.

I know that family are important, but so are you!

If he dosen't come to see you, then i would re-think your relationship with him, for the reason that, if he really, truly missed you, he wouldn't have waited a minute to see you, seriously. He would have missed you so much.

But don't worry hun, see what happens when he does come home. Don't worry or get upset yet, because he could be making plans to see you, as well as friends and family.

Good luck and take care

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