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writes:I know this will be silly- but it is how I feel right now! I found out that my ex-boyfriend cheated on me the whole time we were together. He cheated on all his previous girlfriends as well. I also found a mail he wrote to his friend two years ago stating how badly he wanted to get out of the relationship with me. We broke one and half years after he sent this mail. The mail plus his cheating on me with so many girls really does make me feel unattractive and horribly ugly. I don't want to feel this way because of someone like him, but my self esteem is really low.
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (3 May 2008):
 Ok listen, some guys are assholes. Some guys will cheat on anyone, no matter how they look. Halle Barry was cheated on. Uma Thurman was cheated on. Whoever Jude Law was married to (she is gorgeous) was cheated on. Reese Witherspoon as well. It has nothing to do with you or your looks at all- you have to realize that. You said he cheated on his past girlfriends too so clearly it is how he is. Be so happy you are rid of this jerk! Don't let him have any effect on your self esteem. I know it is hard but just keep reminding yourself how much he is missing out on and how stupid he is. Seriously it has nothing to do with you, you are beautiful. Lucky you to have him out of your life! Good luck with everything.
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reader, Dawnie  +, writes (2 May 2008):
 I understand why your self esteem is at a low but it is not your fault he cheated. Unfortunately that is how some people are and whilst it is unfair it shows they have real problems in doing this. There are plenty of men out there who will treat you the way you deserve and would not do such a horrible thing. Think yourself lucky you are away from this awful man and look forward to the future. Good luck.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (2 May 2008):
 You don't have to feel ugly or have a self-esteem. The basic truth is that he would have never ever had something with you if you weren't attractive at all.
Relationships are a game for him. That's his loss. Loss after loss, sometime he will realize what he's missed.
Don't even give this another thought. Easier said than done, I know, but that's the way to go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): Hi Hunny
I no just where you are at this moment in time and its not silly sweetheart, Im going to send you a great link that will help you.....
http://www.womensselfesteem.com/index.html
You are not ugly you are beautiful always remember how very special you are love, And my prayers are with you at this time I do hope you feel better soon I hope this link helps WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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