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writes:Is this normal Have been seeing my bf nearly a year Started off long distance so always made most of every sec together now he lives closer coz of work and he dont seem as pleased to see me I worry hes going off me i feel low about this I know hes been busy at work and stuff should i mention this too him What should i say
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reader, Aunt Jess +, writes (24 May 2007):
 When you're apart from each other you miss each other terribly and it's easy to let ur mind wander...you find yourself building up this sort of "movie" image in your head for your next meet up. maybe now that you two are more or less on each others doorstep, the expectations aren't as high. I think your boyfriend is equally, or if not MORE happy with you despite your negative thoughts. Perhaps he just feels comfortable knowing that you're close, causing the relationship to possibly lose it's "spark" where you're concerned.You say that he's been busy with work etc...maybe hes just got more things to think about than before.
I suggest you let him know how you feel, try and understand where he's coming from, but if you still feel you're not getting the affection and love you're wanting from the relationship, then maybe it's time to call it a day. If you're unhappy, he will be unhappy, and that's not fair on either on you.
Hope this has helped
Please let me know how things go
xXx jess
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 I think you need to be honest with him. Part of a long distence relationship is all that stuff you think about your partner in your head, comes crashing down when you finally end up together and the reality does not match the fantasy. Since you are not apart, there is no urgency to make every minute special. Unfortuneatly that is exactly the Wrong attitude to take. I suggest to try to take a weekend holiday together to see if the sparks fly again. If not, time to move on.
-FBK
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