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writes:I want to quit masturbating. I love how it feels when I'm doing it but I always feel guilty after. I feel that I'm unholy or something. Sometimes I even watch porn to help me and after I feel awful. Do you have any suggestions on how to stop. Or at least stop watching the stuff. And does anyone else ever feel guilty after too ? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks you guys all of you Im not quitting tried and it only took like a day tip I felt the need again.... LOL thank you I don't feel quilty at all now :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): yeah, it's okay,,,stop feeling so bad. we only live once...
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reader, goldyloxx  +, writes (26 February 2009):
 i think a large percentage of people are brought up to think that sex is bad and dirty..Out of that comes shame and guilt...Its god given and beautiful.....Believe it or not masterbation is a great stress reliever...Dont feel guilty for enjoying yourself.. If you enjoy porn its there to be enjoyed...
there is always sex & love anonymous if you feel you have a big problem with it and are becoming addicted...
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reader, lovelynightmare +, writes (26 February 2009):
 I think it would be hard to entirely quit masturbation.
But you can reduce its frequency by staying in places where people will likely see you, and by always going into your room with a forementioned purpose.
Same thing with the pornography, be in plain sight with the computer/Internet, go online with a mental list of what you'll be visiting...no side trips, and download some kind of porn filter or accountability software (google both for some options).
I felt guilty about porno for a long time btw, and finally stopped. Seeing the other answers, I realize I'm going against the grain on this one, but I'm standing by my answer.
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reader, cupid77 +, writes (26 February 2009):
 Porn gives you different ideas of new positions that have possibly never been tried. Sex Ed 101! The older ones with the people from the 70's crack me up. I like watching porn with my other half. It gets me into the mood... Masturbating helps you to figure out what you enjoy so that you can teach your boyfriend/future boyfriend what feels good to you. That way you get the best out of your sex life. I can't think of a reason to stop unless it is because you are a virgin and your religious beliefs tell you that it is wrong. If you believe that you should wait until marriage that is fine. That is your belief. God created sex though so how could porn or masturbating make you feel guilty or unholy? You're not unvirginalizing yourself. Call me crazy, but I just don't understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): Forget about trying to stop. Take note of all the answers here and concentrate your efforts on trying to overcome your guilt and feeling at ease with what is the most natural thing for a person to do.
Good luck.
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reader, everyminute +, writes (26 February 2009):
I dont think you should stop. Masturbation is healthy for you. Think about how natural it is, everybody has personal needs, it's part nature. if anyone says they dont do it they are either lying or something is wrong with them.
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reader, everyminute +, writes (26 February 2009):
I dont think you should stop. Masturbation is healthy for you. Think about how natural it is, everybody has personal needs, it's part nature. if anyone says they dont do it they are either lying or something is wrong with them.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (26 February 2009):
 Masturbation is a great and private way to get in touch with your rapidly changing body. If the porn makes you feel bad, then I would stop using it, but don't be ashamed of pleasuring yourself. Seeking pleasure is the most natural instinct for humans, and there is nothing perverted about what you are doing.
I can understand not liking porn though. I totally relate to that. Try creating your own scenarios in you mind about how you would like to be touched by a man (woman? whatever you want), and create something you are comfortable with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): If you stopped doing it all together, you would go nuts especially at your age. Just try to not do it as much.
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reader, Tewebag +, writes (26 February 2009):
Feeling guilty after doing that probley has more to do with how your religious values are than anything. Churchs have people believe that sex is dirty and shouldnt be done untell marriage. but it is not dirty at all.
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