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I feel guilty after a drunken night! Help me.

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Question - (31 December 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 23 April 2008)
A male Ireland age 36-40, *xSABBYxx writes:

okay so here goes the story....i met my partner 7 years ago and we were fantastic, we love eachother so much! but from i have been with him, he has always texted "this friend" he met on the internet ( who happens to live ten minutes away) they met once or twice before we got together but swears nothing happened!!

in my partners fone i found loads of genital pics which he recieved and ones my partner sent back, i was so not happy and tried to finish it, but he swore it meant nothing so i stayed and got on with it.....

recently the sex has been so bad and so less frequent, we are lucky if its once a month!....i do everything for him he is lifted and layed!

i went out two months back and snogged another guy and we had a fondle (which im so guilty about) so i told him the truth, well i told him we snogged and thats all!

on christmas day he got a text from the "text friend" and it was a pic of his face, its was the guy i snogged etc.........

can it get worse??? i have told him the truth anout the drunken snog and he blames himself for being distant, i told him it was my fault i should never have two timmed him,but the guilt is still killing me...why??? he said a new year is comming and to forget it all...but a simple snog would be okay but only i know there was a fondle too, the "texyer friend" dosnt know who i am?? so my partner said he wont tell him...but im a fraid he does and the guy tells him more than a snog occured...

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A male reader, xxSABBYxx Ireland +, writes (23 April 2008):

xxSABBYxx is verified as being by the original poster of the question

well guys, after four months everything has been spoke about and better than ever...the sex still isnt up to scratch, but were looking up and even buying a house together...were really happy, thanks for the support guys..xxx

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A female reader, Starry Meadow United States +, writes (15 January 2008):

Tell your partner the truth, even if it'll upset him. Because if the text guy tells him, then he may never trust you again. But, if you sit down and tell him what happened and how sorry you are, then there's a better chance that he'll forgive you.

Trust me, you don't want someone you love to hear a secert that could upset them, from anyone other then you.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008):

I've just come out of a 7 year relationship, where he was doing the same thing as your bf is doing now, eg text/pics etc. Although I was tempted to go out and snog loads of people, I didn't. If your bf wants to put it behind you, and move on, then do it - however, I always say honesty is the best policy, and it would appear both you and your bf need to be honest about things if you're going to move on

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