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writes:hi to make this as short as possible... im about to be 16 and my bf is 19. we had sex for the first time a few nights ago. it was my 4th time ever having sex. he was way too aggressive and did it way too hard and i cried and told him to stop but i was crying so it was hard for me to make words and it was more of a whisper. he just said Wait and then finished. we cuddled after that. i didnt physically push him off of me. what should i do? i feel extremely disrespected at the very least. thank youuu! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys! i told him and he felt horrible. he said he thought i was only joking when i said stop because i had said yes to begin with so he didnt understand why i would want to stop in the middle of it. i told him he was hurting me and he said he will go slower next time but wants to give me time to get over it and be sure im really ready to be having sex with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2010): You cried and he didnt stop, confront him about it this is not acceptable!
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reader, heather016  +, writes (17 February 2010):
you sort of whispered. the information did not reach him. and even if it does, you should have had been more serious when you tell him. when you sort of whispered, he would have thought like, "meh, no biggie, just a bit more"..
i dont get it. why would you feel disrespected when you didnt tell him about it? if you have spoken louder or shouted, he would have heard, dont you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2010): You need to tell him it hurt you physically and upset you emotionally and his reaction will tell you what kind of man (boy) he is. Stop having sex with this guy. You are very very young to be dealing with all this - but if you keep on sleeping with guys who are just using you, you will continue to run the risk of being physically or mentally hurt. Maybe this is a warning sign for you to just take a break from intimacy for a while. However.... i get the feeling you will carry on with this guy to prove to yourself he really isn't that horrible after all. Nobody can tell you what to do only give opinions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2010): this almost counts as a rape...
you should really tell him that you feel hurt about what happened.
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