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writes:I was with my bf for 2 years and all was great until after a year we started fighting about everything. He got a huge temper outa nowhere and I was very patient and kind with him through it. He has thrown my personal belongings against walls to break them and has put me down numerous times. He has punched so many holes in his walls and told me because I make him so mad. He has shoved me before. Recently I had enough and I decided to move away from him. I broke things off and he said he felt dead without me and had no soul anymore. I felt sorry for him and took him back. Since then his mother has died and during that time I took him to airport because he had no one else to bring him. Since he has been gone a girl told me that he and her began emailing eachother and she is much younger than him. She showed me the emails and he was flirting big time with her. She asked if he had a gf and he said i dont know anymore because we fight all the time, he suggested that they go and do something one day and this is during the time I moved. I found this out and confronted him while he was out of town and he said he talked to that girl because i was being a bitch to him.As bad as it hurt me and I cried I told him it was over and he needs to get another ride from the airport .Now i feel bad because he says he has no one but me now since his mom died and I dont know what i should do? Should I trust him after what he did? We were still together when he was emailing this other girl.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 July 2010):
 The e-mail exchange with the girl is a minot issue in the general picture.
Throwing your things around,punching holes in the wall and shoving you would be the deal breaker for me.
This kind of behaviour can suddenly and rapidly escalate and get out of hand.
If this happens you'll have a good reason to feel sorry for yourself,not for him.
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reader, rainbowmaker  +, writes (24 July 2010):
 simple answer here, no you cant trust him. This man sounds like a total nightmare! Believe me i know one or two men exactly like him and he's never going to change! You shouldnt feel like you have to put up with him because his mum died. ok, losing someone like that is going to be hard for him but after the way he has treated you, how is it your problem?
As for the emails, you were still together when he was sending them so as far as i can see you are well rid of this one. Tell him you are are sorry but the way he treated you is unforgivable, walk away and dont look back. You know in yourself that you did your best. You stood by him and he still treated you like dirt. You can do so much better. Please believe that because it's true. When you find someone that treats you the way your meant to be treated you will look back and wonder why you stuck with him for so long and why you even bothered posting this question. Dont waste any more of your time on this loser.
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