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I fantasise about my teacher... should I tell him?...

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Question - (16 April 2008) 11 Answers - (Newest, 20 April 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

hiii

well i'm a student and im 15 taking my GCSEs

and im going to be leaving school in june and going to a diff college. Anyways i really like my english teacher but i'm not sure what to do, i really do like him ive even had dreams which repeat themselves ( i dream that its after school and i'm in the classroom with him, he's at his desk and i'm at a diff desk and then i go up to him and we both start kissing and like hugging and have out hands over each others body (not naked) and like its fun).

I do really like him and i know it's not a crush and i can't stop thinking about him. he's in his thirties and i really want to tell him how i feel so i can get it off my chest. Also like he's really funny and cute and he makes jokes with me and stuff as once during like after school class it was just me and him and he was so flirty.

What should i do? shall i tell him?

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A female reader, Tevote Australia +, writes (20 April 2008):

Tevote agony auntIf you're leaving then sure tell him i'm sure he's felt something similar! womans instincts are always strong when it comes to feelings, hopefully he feels the same way and goodluck.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008):

No! It's a crush honey. Look, just, don't embarrass yourself, or him for that matter. I'm sure you've realised by now that it is totally illegal for any relationship between the two of you. So do your best to get over him, because it seems obvious to be that you two aren't meant to be together. Otherwise, it would at least be legal.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008):

I let my teacher know that I had feelings for him earlier this year - It was a big mistake! I got into trouble and made things difficult for him, I feel so guilty because I care about him so much and didn't intend on hurting him in any way. I understand that you want to tell him, but the consequences will hurt! Not to mention how uncomfortable your teacher will feel about it! Perhaps tell him on your LAST day. I'm going to apologise to mine just before I leave school! xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008):

No, you'll just be one of dozens of girls who have told him that they have feelngs for him.

You are not the first girl and you won't be the last one either to have these feelings! Its part of growing up but you can still do soooooooo much damage to a teacher by thinking its a good idea to show the feelings. If you were older you might understand but you're still young and thinking selfishly.

Don't put yourself through this and don't be so selfish that you cant even begin to comprehend the trouble it could bring down on him.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (16 April 2008):

kenny agony auntI don't think that you should tell him, if you do it could make things vary arkward between the pair of you. I would just admire him from afar, over time the feelings you are having will get weaker, time really is the healer of everything. Just ride it out and before you know it you have forgotten him and be really into someone else, that just life i guess.

All the best x

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A female reader, love-him United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2008):

love-him agony auntHEY!!

Babe do NOT tell him!! Trust me it will only make things soo much worse!! i know you think it isnt a crush, and you may prove us all wrong that it isnt, but not while you are still at the school and under 16.. It will get you both into trouble hun!! Feel free to mail me at any time x x x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008):

Hello,

I sympathise with you, I too fell head over heels for a teacher when I was at school.

But believe me when I say it is most definitley not a good idea to tell him. I know you think you're smitten but it is just a phase. You admire this person, look up to and respect him. This can sometimes grow into affection but for your own sake and for his you can not tell him about your feelings. Teachers are vulnerable when it comes to the affections of their students as a simple misunderstanding can very quickly escalate into a full scale scandal often resulting in the teacher losing his job.

If you respect your teacher the please do not mention how you feel. It will pass, most likely when you meet someone new at college. It is the mature thing to do. Good luck.

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A male reader, salvation United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2008):

well if you really love him let him go. Sounds cheesy but if ya tell him things could get weird he could even lose his job if say it went further or he gave you an a and someone didnt think you deserved it it could come up and ruin both your lives.

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A female reader, duskyrowe United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2008):

duskyrowe agony auntNo don't tell him just admire him from afar.

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A female reader, daniellexxxx United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2008):

daniellexxxx agony auntLeave it telling him will only make it akward between you to but he will be embarrassed and it's not nice. As no offence but i dont think he would look twice at a student just try take your mind of it get a hobby or a bf and just leave it.

Good luck.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008):

no, dont tell him. it is just a crush. concentrate on your GCSEs and after you leave school you will in time forget about him. he will lose his job if you try anything and you could get into a lot of trouble with school.

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