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I fancy a guy at my gym but he seems immature. Should I keep flirting with him or not?

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Question - (9 April 2017) 2 Answers - (Newest, 11 April 2017)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I go to the gym regularly and there's this guy I always see in the weights section, usually with his friends. He's very cute in my opinion and I often see him smiling at me or checking me out. I'm not sure if I should encourage him more because he is really my type physically and I'm not looking for anything too serious because I'm only living here temporarily.

However I'm turned off because he also seems slightly immature or at least very extroverted. He and his buddy were on one of the machines the other day and he smiled at me, so I smiled back as I was walking past. I heard him really overreact from behind and squeal "So SLY!" (presumably about me rather than him) although in a joking tone of voice, and then I heard his friend say something too but I didn't catch that. He and his mates are also often quite boisterous in the gym and "laddish" which I find obnoxious.

Should I flirt back more or not? I do like him but I don't want trouble if he pays more attention to me because he seems a bit of a lad.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (11 April 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntIts your choice, but if you are finding him obnoxious and immature already then maybe just leave him be. however maybe you are judging him to soon.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (9 April 2017):

Honeypie agony auntHe seems a bit conceited, to be honest. So really up to you.

If you are having fun with flirting and not being overtly interested then HAVE your fun with it. IT IS possible to flirt and mean nothing by it. In this case, it's a matter of giving and getting attention in a subtle way. And THAT dear OP can be fun. And if it's no longer fun then you stop.

If he asks you out because he thinks the flirting means you are interested, then you can decline or go... My advice though, leave it at JUST being some light-hearted flirtation AT the gym and no more.

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