A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm confused about why I want things/ people in my life...I have a group of friends who are quite loud and chatty and funny. I'm fairly quiet. If I speak up in the group - nobody hears me, and nobody ever responds to me. When we use Whatsapp to group message, nobody ever responds to my messages. I have no 'best friend' and I while I don't feel lonely. I want to feel important to someone else. (Other than my parents ;-) I usually feel worse after seeing my friends because it kills my esteem a little bit. Everyone I know says I'm such a nice girl, and very funny, and pretty and blablabla but it just doesn't mean anything to me anymore. I don't sit around feeling sorry for myself either. I work full time, freelance partime, go to gym classes four days a week, doing a part time dog training internship and volunteer at a dog shelter. I'm busy enough, I do have a life that I enjoy. I'm just confused as to what's the point sometimes if you can't feel like youre worth anything? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (21 September 2014):
 It sounds tome that you are reffering to the equivlant to 'chat rooms' in social media or Facebook. If that's the case. It's probably got nothing to do with you per se. A lot of people don't respond because they just get tired of the whole type-to-talk thing and sort of drop out of meeting more and more people so they just don't reply.
A
female
reader, Via F.  +, writes (21 September 2014):
 To be straightforward, my rule for friends is that if you don't feel happy about them, they really are not your friends. I went through a stage of my life a bit like the situation your in. No one listened to me. I was the shy quiet in the back of the class room that never raised her hand. I was practically invisible.
These friends you're with, seem like if they didn't have you in the group, things wouldn't change. I'm gonna tell you one thing: go find a different group to hang out with. If you have been with them for a while, they probably have changed. If they're the gossip bearing group, then no go man. They might be even gossiping about you. Backstabbing is not good, and it looks like if you don't go soon, you are in for a good bit of it.
And a new special someone? There will be a good guy out there. I keep on telling myself to wait, because the time will come. You can go out there or wait. You don't sound like a shallow girl. That's good, because not all guys want the airheads that you find at the mall droolling over the newest trend. (They don't drool but still you get the point.)
There are people out there that will accept you.
...............................
|
