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writes:I am 42 yr old average looking guy and am getting hit by young girls more then before since I took up fitness and gained weight. Now I find my every interaction with the opp sex becomes sexual. Even my sis in law has started flirting with me although I don't take it seriously, I got shocked when my 22 yr neice started hitting on me. I know this won't last forever but am enjoying the feeling , how do I handle the situation and keep my respect as a fun loving sexy but not creepy guy
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 April 2017):
 Your niece is hitting on you? Your sister in law? Are you sure they are not just complimenting your new appearance and you are taking things out off proportion and think all women love you? Honestly it is great you have worked out and feel better about yourself, but try and keep your feet places firmly on the ground.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2017): Isn't it funny how when people get into shape their egos puff out really big?
And then what happens?
Take for example, the older guy who is married with a family and a beautiful wife and he thinks he is Hercules suddenly. And starts to eye up all the young chickies at the gym. And decides to play little sex games with them. All to boost that humungous ego which he never had when he was a fatty.
Ego's are evil and they make people do nasty things.
Kind of pathetic if you ask me because eventually he is going to end up being an old fatty again. And this time he will be all alone. And miserable in his old age.
Sad ending.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2017): I have a friend who has recently dropped a few pounds and gained some muscle since he has been working-out. Every-time we go out together he thinks everyone is checking him out. He constantly asks if his jeans or shirt is too tight, or won't remove his jacket if he feels his tee-shirt isn't fitting just right. He stands rigid and looks like a pompous peacock. Nearly posing! Puffing his chest and flexing his biceps.
Seriously?!!
Being a real friend, I simply explained to him; working out lifts your self-esteem and boosts your self-confidence once you realize the progress you're making.
He's handsome. People were checking him out long before the weight-loss and extra muscle; but he didn't feel the pride he has now. He was down on himself because he constantly compared himself to others and hated getting older as a gay man. Now his ego fishes for compliments and he craves validation; because he can see his changes himself. I tell him to dial it back a little and not get a swelled-head. Attitude can work for, or against you. Conceit overshadows all your best attributes. Looks are superficial!
People are attracted to confidence. The reason for sculpting the body is mainly superficial, but working-out is really for the health-benefit. I find the comment about your niece hitting on you a little off-putting. I think she was merely offering her uncle support and encouragement.
Keep it in perspective. Don't let the mirror inflate your ego. People also like humility and natural charm. Take it all in stride; and you'll stay balanced and level-headed.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (23 April 2017):
 Enjoy the attention by all means but don't abuse it.
For instance, family members are definitely out of bounds, unless you want to have your whole family structure come crashing down around you - and your new found confidence will not help you there.
If you are single (I assume you are as you don't mention a partner), then use your new confidence to find yourself a nice lady to share your life with.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (23 April 2017):
 You are being fooled by your own ego. You feel fitter; you think you look better, and you are naturally expecting to see a reaction in the eyes of others.
OK, go with it, but don't take yourself too seriously.
It's great that you are taking care of yourself, and probably that's what people are applauding. You haven't suddenly become catch of the century have you. LOL!
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