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I don't want to mess things up but I think he has gone to far with this comment to another woman....what should I do?

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Question - (9 January 2012) 4 Answers - (Newest, 10 January 2012)
A female age 41-50, *RICAN writes:

Hi, my boyfriend is quite a private person or so i thought esp in facebook, we have been in relationship for 13months now,few months ago i found he skyped a woman and in there conversation ,she asked wht he was doing and he replied,nothing,horny in bed..she asked if he had a girlfriend , his reply was im in a new town for a business trip,he said he has double bed..i dint bother much coz she was in brazil and him in uk,and since i went into his personal stuf i felt it not right to confront him.

today i find ths msg on facebook

woman...want to be in a hot tub with a dougie.

Him...i thought you would rather be in there with a willie.

can any one tell me what this meant, i do find his reply offensive esp since we r in a committed relationship,i find it inappropriate ,could i be wrong,im i overeacting?? i copied the msg and forwarded to him, with a note asking if it rings a bell, ...waiting to see wht his response is.he says he loves me and though we are in LDR, we communicate daily,i met his parents,friends, i dnt want to mess things up but at the same time i think he has gone too far with that comment...

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A female reader, FRICAN  +, writes (10 January 2012):

FRICAN is verified as being by the original poster of the question

I think what I put on my friends facebook should be up to me, I would Never ever dream of going through your face book reading and querying your posts or comments as I believe that is your space.

If you really don't trust me since u keep going back to old topics then I urge to make a decision today and if you are going to ask a question I suggest you don't already have the answer otherwise it doesn't really matter what the answer you get is. Finally if you choose to see the rudeness out of a word please do not assume everyone is the same as you

I have chosen to email you the link , as a way of saying I really do not want to be in a situation were I have to justify every situation or every comment I make or explain who my friends are. I am who I am if it causes you too much upset or headache then remove yourself from the cause of such headache.

Enjoy the video, the one with the headscarf is dougie and the little one that jumped in the pool is willie. But if you don't believe me listen to the sound they refer to them by name to ......ABOVE IS HIS REPLY AFTER CONFRONTING HIM.....I CHOSE NOT TO STRESS MYSELF AND ENDED THE RELATIONSHIP!!!!!!!!I FELT HE HAD NO REMORSE WHATSOEVER...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012):

The only thing you would be messing up is continuing a relationship with someone who is obviously still playing the field while he pretends to be your bf. He considers himself free to do as he wishes, even when you confront him on it. It doesn't matter that it may be only online at the moment. I agree he is either keeping you around until something better comes along, most likely, or he is a serial cheater.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (9 January 2012):

Honeypie agony auntTranslation:

woman...want to be in a hot tub with a dougie.

(you want to be in a hot tub smoking pot/weed)

Him...i thought you would rather be in there with a willie.

(I thought you would rather be in there with a penis - aka HIS penis I would assume)

I would not be OK with this. Seems to me that he is keeping you around while looking for someone else..

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012):

Yes talking to other woman and can't be honest. Notice he didn't answer yes to the GF comment. DER!

I think BF likes to play web cam games to get off. So even though you are in a LDR, he may believe its not cheating.

It is.

I think you have every right to be upset and I would tell him that adding women to his FB that will indulge his web cam activities is unacceptable.

Granted, he will most likely end things or lie about it but its something you know about him now.

Wonder how many LDR he might have going on?

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