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writes:I have been dating this guy since July last year. We didn't see each other for a few months because he was out of town and we started dating again recently. We first met in 2013 and we stayed in touch weekly since then. Here's my dilemma...it's his birthday in two weeks and I'm not sure what to get or how much to spend at this point.We are not serious yet but we aren't seeing other people. I know people say don't spend a lot when you aren't serious yet but on the other hand I have known him for quite a while and I'd feel weird buying something cheap. It's just not my style. I was thinking of getting him a nice watch around $150 with tax. I thought that would be okay but is it too much? I don't want to scare him away out but I also don't want him to think I'm cheap, it's not like we are acquaintances.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2015): May I suggest something different? What about buying him a different bottle or can of beer for every year of his age? You can splash the cash if you want to, as there are so many different brews. It's unusual, shows you have given it some thought and it's uncompromising.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 April 2015):
 If he is the one with the megabucks ( ar at least affluent ) ... then HE is the one who should give fancy gifts, not the one who receives them :).
What counts is the thought, AND , if you keep the value of the gift proportional to your means ( i.e you don't buy something MUCH cheaper than you could afford ) nobody will think you are a cheapskate.
This, plus the fact that generally speaking a watch is a rather " official " gift ( they are often given to men for engagements, wedding anniversaries and such ) makes me feel that buying him a watch would come across as tryng a bit too hard.
Then again, it is not set in stone, and it's not against the law. If you really feel like giving him a watch ... I don't think he is going to DUMP you because you got him something too nice !
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2015): We guys rarely update our razors, and mess around with blades that nick the crap out of your faces. Even if he's the kind of guy that prefers hand razors and blades; bring him into the 21st century with a fancy new gadget. They range in price, and they can make a morning shave really comfortable. Especially the type you can use in the shower! Even if he has one, it's probably old.
If he likes a good scotch or whiskey, get him a fancy top-shelf blend. If he's a golfer, some top-notch golf gear is nice. To include: golf-balls, a golf glove (left or right-handed? Better ask him), and tees. Anyone at the sports shop will go overboard in helping you pick-out the best, or top of the line. They only range so high in price. Altogether they may cost nearly, but not quite $150. I believe you should cap at $100.00.
If you know a man well enough, you would know what he likes.
It's not the cost of the gift, it's the thought that counts. It always helps to buy something you know for sure he'll use and think of you when he does. I think a watch might be too personal; and more commemorative of a long-term relationship in progress. It's a might soon for that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm the original poster, responding to CindyCares comment. He has an affluent job in the public eye and likes nice things. I guess that's why I'm not quite sure how much to spend right now. A $150 isn't extravagant for me but it's not a drop in the bucket either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2015): I'd say a watch is slightly too intimate - it suggests time and the idea that you want to spend the rest of your time with him henceforth. I'd say it signals you are serious about someone and it also suggests 'ownership' as a partner- a bit similar to a ring.
Does he have hobbies and is $150 a lot for both of you or just about right? Without knowing either of these facts it's difficult to suggest an alternative.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (18 April 2015):
I guess this will be largely a matter of personal opinion, to me yeah 150 $ for a guy you are just "seeing "( although exclusively ) since July feels a bit too much , then again I suppose much would also depend from your income and lifestyle ? I mean , if you were unemployed living on benefits , 150 would be a dangerous extravaganza which would scare off anybody; not the same if you were a very affluent professional for whom 150 represents, basically, no more than a generous tip.
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