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I don't want to break his heart but I also don't want to have this feeling of regret.

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Question - (12 August 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 12 August 2007)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

It's been about 3 months now since I've been going out with my boyfriend, and I am starting to regret it. I love him and everything but the only problem is that I am starting to have feelings for my other friend.

My boyfriend is one of the sweetest and funny guys you'll ever meet but he can also be an ass at time. He tried so hard for us to be together and now I'm not sure what to do.

I don't want to break his heart but I also don't want to have this feeling of regret...

What can I do?

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A female reader, hit-the-road,jack... United Kingdom +, writes (12 August 2007):

it's human to doubt things yeah,

but all i can say is dont do anything til your absolutely sure

u dont wanna lose a secure relationship 4 the chance of something else which might not even happen.

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A female reader, Farris United Kingdom +, writes (12 August 2007):

Farris agony auntAre you having feelings for your friend purely as a "grass is greener" reaction, or do you think that it's real?

The only real advice I can give is that you should try to clearly work out what you want, it's no easy task, but it's what you need to do.

If you decide that you really do regret being with your boyfriend, despite your love for him, then you should break up with him. There is no point staying in a relationship that you don't want to be in.

If you decide that you really do love him, then you should sit him down and talk to him about the things that he does that makes him "an ass at times". Try to work things out to make the relationship better for the two of you.

As for the other guy, in this case it's best that you settle the thoughts in your head before you do anything rash. If you stay with your boyfriend, then there's no need for you to say or do anything, but if you break up, then I'd advise you stay single for a while before you bring your friend into the equation. You should make sure that it's what you really want before you go jumping into things.

The heart is a fragile thing, try not to hurt anyone, most especially yourself.

Good Luck & Best Wishes.

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