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writes:Im just curious here but im in a LDR and have been for around 2years and a half. I met him online and yes I have met him. We have many ups and downs and have had some incredibly low times where you would think we would break up but havent. We truly love each other and I could spend the rest of my life with him. But the only thing is I am 21 and hes going to be 20 soon and Im not sure how to take things.What I mean by that is im in the UK hes in Canada and since I was like 9 years old Ive wanted to move to Canada and before I met him I had already researched everything on how to emigrate and things but truth is its kinda unlikely I will get into the country without getting married or engaged as I dont meet the requirements for the skilled workers and so on.I would marry him in a heartbeat tbh as we get along amazingly in real (much much better than online funnily enough) and bla bla bla but hes not ready for marriage and firstly id never push him and secondly id never use him like that.So what im wondering mainly I guess is where do you think things go from here? Do I have to wait for years and years on end for us to someday marry or what if that never comes and im 40 years old coming home to a computer every night (I DONT want that)...Im pretty lost on the issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): i am the original person who asked this question and k c100 you just made me mad more than anything.My plan isnt and never has been to find a canadian guy and do it that way as Im very much against it, infact im pretty much against even doing it with him unless im actually already living in canada.im already in school doing something i hate (ive already dropped out, felt guilty and came back but huge wrong decision on my behalf) and im doing law and im sick of school. I could ofcourse go back to school and do something else but im not going to because i have 0 interest in school so i dont see the point in going when i know myself i wont show up and im not prepared to do the work because im just not ready to be back in school (and i already know what i would go back to do when i feel ready to) so your suggestion to me isnt that easy.and your job suggestion...ive been trying that for the past 2 years now to get a job that meets the skilled workers list and guess what where i live there is no jobs...ive even searched a 400 mile radius and nothing or they want someone who already has experience or some form of similar qualifications.not as easy as your making it out to be.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (28 March 2011):
 Well the other option would be to make yourself a 'skilled worker' so you can get a job in Canada and stay there. We are not living in the 1940's where marriage is all women are good for, you can go to school, college, university etc and study so you can get some skills that will be useful!
I've just had a quick look at this (on this website http://www.visabureau.com/canada/priority-occupation-list.aspx) and there are plenty of jobs there that are not restrictive to 99% of people. Yes some require degrees or high level skills, but some, like food service & chefs would not be hard to get into at all! You could easily get a full time job in a restaurant and work your way up to manager level in a couple of years if you work hard and are committed. Equally as a chef, training can be done either at college or in a restaurant where you can work your way up.
I dont know what you are doing now, but you could go to uni and do a degree in something from this list. There are a wide range of business degrees you could do to fit with the 'professional occupations in business services to management jobs'. I have just had a quick go at the assement they have on that website and I qualify, it cant be that hard to get in!
I am 23, I have a degree (3 years), I have been working for 2 and a half years in Marketing. Now Marketing is not particularly hard to get into, you can get work experience at plenty of agencies at some places dont even require you to have a degree if you are good enough.
I cant see why you would want to sit around waiting for him to propose when you can get off your backside and make things happen yourself! Stop waiting on him to start your life and do something about it. You say you have always wanted to live in Canada, well how were you planning on doing it without a job? Were you honestly just on the look out for a Canadian guy to marry so you could move over there?
Get busy getting some skills and then you can move over there on your own, regardless of what man you are with. There are hundreds of different career options for you and study options so if you dont have the skills, find a way to get them and the sooner you get on with it, the sooner you can move over there and be with him. It is your life - you are in control therefore make things happen. Dont wait around for someone else to make your life the way you want it to be, only you can make yourself happy and achieve the things you want in life.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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