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writes:How can I be more trusting of my boyfriend?My boyfriend and I have a small business where we sub-contract web design work to others. We've recently been expanding the business and looking for new contractors. I found someone online who's interested in working for us and we both like her work.I now have to set up a meeting with her. The problem is, I can't seem to do it. Why not? Because she's gorgeous and I feel threatened by her...as in, I'm scared that my boyfriend will take a fancy to her and I'll be history.I trust him and I love him and he feels the same way about me. So even thinking this is so stupid but I can't help feeling insecure about it. How do I not let this get to me?Not meeting her is not an option, as we've been looking for someone as good as her for a long time so we can't pass up the opportunity.Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers, they both make a lot of sense. Thinking more about this I realise how stupid I've been.
PerhapsNot, you give some really good advice when you say that insecure women tend to think their man is the best catch. This is something I need to work on.
Daniel, I'll pass on her details to you ;)
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (15 August 2011):
 There are ALWAYS going to be more beautiful women than you. Heck, even smarter, funnier, more talented, ect. What a lot of jealous, insecure women don't realize is this: what makes you think that a stunning, gorgeous woman would desire YOUR man? Does he look like a Greek god, or is he an incredibly charismatic, powerful man? Is he so extraordinary that women stop dead in their tracks? I doubt it. She could very well have a partner of her own; heck she could be a lesbian for all you know. She's qualified and that's all that matters.
If your boyfriend leaves you for someone better looking, as you fear, you wouldn't be loosing much. You would simply loose some dead weight. Very shallow, superficial dead weight.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (15 August 2011):
 It's not uncommon for many people (not just women) to feel insecure about the opposite sex hanging, working, or being around their boyfriend or girlfriend. But trust is a rare gem in a relationship. And if he hasn't given you a reason to worry, then don't. Just focus on the work that this lady could provide. And if she is as good as you say she is, then tell her to contact me. I could use her skills for my business. :^)
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