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I don't want him to think what's wrong with her? I love my cousin!

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Question - (21 November 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 December 2010)
A female Canada age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hi, my name is sky and i am in love with my cousin. its plain and simple i am in love with him. here is my story, i need some advice.

When i was 5 to about 8 my cousins from Michagin would come over and i would hang out with them. i was more attached to the girl lets say her name is brianna, but there was also a boy lets say his name is Jordan. when i was about 8 they stopped coming around and i never staid in touch. almost 3 years ago my cousin jordan needed a job and decided to come live with us (this house includes my nanny, my papa, me, my mom, and my uncle would stay here during the weekdays and my aunt would come by at least once during the day). when he first walked in the door i was sooo nerves because i hadnt seen him in years and well i was shy. about 4-5 months after that i fell in love with him. i was 13 at the time and he was 20. i was scared i mean he is my cousin and i fell in love with him there must be something wrong with me! so i staid away but after a week i had to go upstairs and visit i had to see him. i kept telling my self that he was my cousin and that it was wrong and sometimes it worked for an hour or so but eventually that stopped working. i told my self the age difference but then i started to say that it was only 7 years and 2 months the average age different in married couples is 5-9 years so that didnt work either. i knew he wouldnt be interested, for one he is my cousin and for two younger people usally like older people with that much of an age difference but older people usally dont like younger people. and i dont think about sex with him, well i mean i have gone there a cuple of times but it is mainly just being in a relationship. the thing is he is religeouse too! his paraents and sister and he is too but it isnt as strong you know? my nanny and papa are religeouse along with my aunt. i am not. so he would come down and whatch shows with us (house, crimanl minds, stuff like that) but it was with me, my mom, and him. we didnt talk alot alot but we talked i was scared of saying the wrong thing though. i like him because he is funny, and sweet, and so caring and he will make you laugh and of course he has his flaws but he is perfect to me. i dont know if he is hot or not because iv never really been able to tell. he gets alot of s**t from people and all i want to do is protect him and i do sometimes, when he isnt around. i know i am young but i am very adult minded and i have had crushes at school before this is different this is love. i am now 14 and he is 21 and he moved back home 3 months ago. i will probably see him in jnuary but after that who nows. i miss him so much its killing me! i dont want to tell anyone because i am very close to my mom and i am scared she will never look at me quite the same way ever again. i am scared she will love me a little less. also the rest of my famil is religeouse and if my dad found out he and his family would like disown me! :(. i dont want to tell jordan because i dont want to hurt him, i dont want him to think for the rest of his life about the crazy cousin who loves him and ask him self questions like "why" and "what is wrong with her". i care so much for him i dont want to hurt him i dont want to tell him. i also dont have his phone number, or his email, and i cant drive down there. i dont want to be locked up in the looney bin or the laughing farm. i never told anyone this not even my pets! am i crazy. is there something wrong with me? what do i do? these dreams of him and these thoughts of him and me telling myself ill never see him again are killing me and i am slowly getting depressed. why am i so young and why is there such an age difference when i fall in love with my cousin.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010):

Its a little to one sided right now. So like me(i like an older man) your gonna have to wait if hes still single that is and plus you have to see if he likes you back.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010):

You had better cool it until you are older. You could get him into a lot of trouble because he is so much older. Give it time (until you are at least l8) and if it is meant to be, it will happen.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010):

Well it doesn't sound like he loves you back, I mean in no instance of your report did you mention a really good conversation you two had or a trip out which was memorable. My advice is just try and forget about him , concentrate on church/ school, go out more.

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