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I don't understand why I have started feeling this way about my friend, what can I do?

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Question - (31 March 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 April 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My best guy friend used to be in love with me, or so he says, he says he's never liked anyone as much as he liked me. About a month back he got a girlfriend, it was like a slap in the face when I found out, but I guess thats because I thought he still liked me. While with his girlfriend he started having feelings for one of my bestfriend and he broke up with his girlfriend to give things a chance with my best friend, after the first hour my friend knew it wasn't what she wanted and by the next day things were over, so this guy got back with his girlfriend the same day. 2 weeks later and he still has feelings for my bestfriend.

This whole time I have been jealous of my friend and wished it was me he liked, I do anything i can to try to get his attention, but I've noticed my friend does too. I don't understand this, What do i do?

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (1 April 2010):

You want what you can't have. He liked you and you enjoyed the attention. Now he doesn't, you miss the attention and you're jealous. You don't really fancy him at all. You just like the attention. If you got him, you'd only dump him. And let's be fair, he's not all that great either if he's been through two girls. Basically, neither of you are yet ready for a relationship. You could waste your time trying to get him, and maybe you would succeed. But it would fall apart in the end because neither of you know what you want.

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A female reader, KrissyA Canada +, writes (31 March 2010):

KrissyA agony auntHey, I totally understand your dilemma! The exact same happend to me.

Heres why you feel like this. Even if you would have never liked him if he hadn't told you, you do because he told you he loves you. Its a girl thing!

You under no circumstances can tell him you like him. Or are even slightly jealous.

You need to stop and think "Do i really like this guy. Am i possibly going to have a future with him" If the answers yes then make sure he still likes you. Follow your heart but dont let that outweigh your head!

Hope it works out

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A female reader, aliyahnangelo United States +, writes (31 March 2010):

aliyahnangelo agony auntWell I think its the jealousy factor kicking in. u need to think hard about if u just liked all of his attention on you or if u just realized that u want to pursue a relationship with this guy. I know its nice to have someone adore u but if it just a bruised ego of not being the center of his world anymore then let it go. But if u just realized that u want him than go and get him girl!! Tell him u didn't realize it before but seeing with someone else drives u crazy and that if he will still have u then u want to be with him. u probably still have the power to make him yours if that is what u really want.

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