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female
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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I were on a break and just got back together. We went back and things have slowly gotten better progressing. The communication is good and he shows he really cares about me but something has changed. When I have spent the night in him apartment not having sex he is happy but then in the morning when I am leaving He tells me to make sure to take my bag out. He never used to do this before. This has happen twice, the other day he did and said he friend and wife were coming over at 5pm so I needed to take my bag. Later that night he texted me and asked how my day was and I told him that morning had made me late to work. he just said ouch. Then I ask him what he was doing and to come meet since I had gone out with people from work. he said he was at his cousins birthday party. I said well, and why was I not invited? Then there was no answer back We have been dating for 1 1/2yrs long distance until recently. Sometimes I get the feeling he is testing me to see what I will do since I told him I love him and I was not ready to get serious. that was my mistake right? maybe he wants to be more like friends then for me to be his girlfriend now but that is not what he acts like when we are together. He acts like he is moving closer to me or is it that he just wants sex which we have never had. I am a little confused.Remember we do meet for dinner and spend that time together which is really good and we talk and laugh alot. But then I feel bad when he asks me to take my thing out. The other morning he just said thank you for respecting my space. That was one of the issues he had about him being afraid to commit. He does not call me like he used to, but he is working a lot of overtime and this I can understand. He has called regularly twice during the week to meet, but then on his last day off he does not, he does his own thing. Is he is on overload after he sees me or he playing games with me. I don't understand guys and how they think. If this is so then I need to get out the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): "So you are dating as boyfriend and girlfriend for 1 and 1/2 year and no sex ever? Why?"
Why not? Sex is a personal choice.
Back to the question, it could be two things.
First it could be that you're both unsure about how much you want to commit to each other. Maybe the jump from LDR to close relationship was too sudden and he's not ready to give up his free time. It sounds like he's using the subject of your bag to make a point.
So why not take a step back too? Don't stop seeing him, but be busier and have your own space and leisure time too. Maybe that way you would understand him better, make him miss you more, and have a good time too.
Otherwise he sounds like he's hiding something or someone. There's nothing wrong with introducing your girlfriend to his friends and family, so I don't see why he would leave you out of that part of his life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): So you are dating as boyfriend and girlfriend for 1 and 1/2 year and no sex ever?
Why?
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