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I don't understand him!

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Question - (20 April 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 20 April 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

im so confused! im getting mixed signals here.

ok so heres the story. i started talking to this kid who im going to call jake this year. he was extremely sweet. every night he'd say goodnight beautifull and he told me he liked me once too.

i started crushing on him and then a few days later he says i like you but i also have feelings for someone else which crushed me. he then started going out with one of his ex girlfriends (wtffff??) and i told him how i felt for him.

randomly the next day we hunq out and talked about everything and worked it out. weve hung out alot now but just friday when i was with him he started puttinq his arm around me and his hand like under my shirt (not touching anywhere just putting it there) and the first time i pulled away and said um im uncomfortable and he said nooo and did the puppy dog face and i just thought um ok ?

so then we just pretty much cuddled ( not forgetting hes still with that girl). im guessing his girlfriend called him and they got in an arguement and he came back saying "girls are stupid".and before he left he kept touching and hugging me .

i do like him but dont want to be his rebound girl. and just a little bit ago i went on myspace and saw that he still had i love my baby soo much and the date and everything yet he was all over me ! what??? what i planned to do was next time just lead him on like if he went to kiss me id go into it and right before we kissed pull back and say oh wait you have a girlfriend or something like that but i dont know.

what should i do ? i want to tell him about everything but i know that he'll come up with something to make me look stupid and wrong . p.s im 14

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009):

he's playing games. say goodbye and move on. He wants to be a player and he's playing you and this other chick. I'd let her know too. leave him alone BOTH of you

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009):

I reeealy think you should take yourself out of the picture here. even if broke up with her right now and wanted to go fully with you, then i just don't see how you would be able to trust him. He is all over when he's with someone else, so who's to say he wouldn't do the same thing to her.

It sounds like your values and morals are telling you that you shouldn't be with him cuddleing and whatnot when he has a gf, but everytime you say something about it, he makes you feel like its ok.

So not only is he making you feel like something is ok when you know deep inside that it's really no, but he is hurting this other girl and dragging you into the equation. You really don't seem like a girl who wants to hurt anybody. This guy is not god for you. He has some maturing to do before he is good for anyone.

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