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writes:I just cannot trust 'George'. I have been in a relationship with him for the past 2 years. We broke up once last July when he got engaged to another woman. We only split for a couple of months... and he called off his engagement with that girl because he said he loved me so much that he just couldn't go through with it.Can I trust that things are fine?We are getting married in February this year... I'm very confused and scared.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): If your asking such a question then marriage is the last thing for you two to do. You need time to think and think clearly. he was engaged to another woman and called it off how responsible will he with YOUR feelings? doesnt look good
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reader, zecky +, writes (20 January 2007):
it must be hard for you - knowing that you're getting married in February. it may seem like everything's coming around you and closing in - but you still have time! would it be better to blow it off now than later when you're married? it's better to be completely sure and in love and excited for your wedding day, not a dread that should take a toll on you when you walk down the aisle. you've mentioned that he loves you, but do you love him? it's hard yes, but by all means, ask for more time! he should understand if he really is meant for you. don't start a life of dread - you still have time. but yes, all the best, mebbe have a talk with your guy about this, or a supportive friend/family member. take care
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reader, zecky +, writes (20 January 2007):
it must be hard for you - knowing that you're getting married in February. it may seem like everything's coming around you and closing in - but you still have time! would it be better to blow it off now than later when you're married? it's better to be completely sure and in love and excited for your wedding day, not a dread that should take a toll on you when you walk down the aisle. you've mentioned that he loves you, but do you love him? it's hard yes, but by all means, ask for more time! he should understand if he really is meant for you. don't start a life of dread - you still have time. but yes, all the best, mebbe have a talk with your guy about this, or a supportive friend/family member. take care
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (20 January 2007):
 "Scared" and "confused" are not two things you build a marriage on. I think that maybe his feelings for you are valid, but I do think you need much more time to build trust again in your relationship before you make a lifelong commitment to each other.
xxIndia
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reader, cd206  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 If you can't trust him before the wedding you shouldn't be getting married to him. It'd be wrong to marry anyone you have such a significant doubt about.
CD
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): You have trust issues now and you are getting married quite soon. Put the wedding back until you are completely sure. You should feel 100% about getting married to anyone. Please have a good rethink and maybe put it back until you are completely certain.
Take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): You have trust issues now and you are getting married quite soon. Put the wedding back until you are completely sure. You should feel 100% about getting married to anyone. Please have a good rethink and maybe put it back until you are completely certain.
Take care
xx
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (19 January 2007):
 Getting married with trust issues is not a good idea. Not matter how much planning you have, can you adjourn this wedding until you are reassured?
Sorry to hear that whilst you were separated he got engaged and broke it off. Does he really know what he wants himself?
Both of you need to be absolutely sure that you have a solid relationship before getting married. Otherwise you will both get miserable and feel trapped.
Get talking to him now!
He may have realised his mistake but you need reassurance and he is the only one who can give it to you.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): you say he was only with this girl for a few months and he purposed? to me thats a bit wierd! i have been with my fella for 5 years and we havent even discussed it yet!
Do what you feels right!if u think you can trust him enough then marry him if not why dont you ask him to forget the wedding for a year and use the money u would for the wedding for a fancy holiday alone and get to know each other and build a trust in him!
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reader, ajen +, writes (19 January 2007):
It seems like he has made the choice to be with you. Are you possibly holding on to the hurt from your break up and his other relationship from last summer? If so do you think you can let that go? I wish you much happiness in your heart whatever you decide :)
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