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writes: Hey all,So whenever I have sex or fool around with my boyfriend, I moan. Alot. Soetimes I even scream I'm a very talkative person in general, so I don't know if that's part of it. Because the thing is, I moan with pleasure, but I don't have an orgasm. I can't seem to find anyone who explain this to me, as most people will say "Girls moan when they fake orgasms". I moan, not because I'm having an orgasm, but because I'm just experiencing pleasure. I'm just very confused. Is there something wrong with me that I make this much noise during sex? I'm 99% sure I have never had an orgasm before, alone or with a partner, so I son't know why I'm so vocal.Thanks,K
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2013): I am the same way you are. And I have had several different types of orgasm and have been known to scream from something that was more of a mental orgasm. Women are lucky because I think we more pleasure from sex than men do as long as we are comfortable with our bodies and know how to please ourselves while with our partner.
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (3 March 2013):
 My view is as long as your bf is clear and is not misled into thinking you came, then there's nothing wrong with what you're doing. I don't think everyone's had an orgasm by 16/17 and years ago I WASN'T sure if I had had one even though I had, so my tips on figuring out whether you had one is:
-it should feel like build up almost like you have to urinate, and then a release like you finally let it go
-a more tell-tale sign is that there should be a rhythmic fluttering/opening and closing contraction that you can feel at the vaginal entrance, almost like it has its own pulse. That's what tipped me off! Enjoy, be safe, and use protection!
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reader, misLadYd..  +, writes (2 March 2013):
 you can moan or be vocal.there is nothing wrong with that.i mean if you be quite then there is something wrong.your bf might think that ure not enjoying.then it wil be akwards so i agree. Its ok to moan.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 March 2013):
 No, girls don't moan just to fake orgasms. Some do is as part of faking an orgasm, sure. But I'm quite sure women in general moan when they are feeling pleasure.
When you have an orgasm you feel pleasure, so you will moan and make sounds then too. So why wouldn't you moan when you're enjoying other things too? It's not just an orgasm that feels great...
It's not weird to make sounds, I don't know where you got that from. I think it's weird for someone to not make any sounds in bed.
Oh and if you aren't sure you've had an orgasm then you haven't had an orgasm. You'll KNOW. It's not something that is brief, tiny and short. It's a big bang and you will definitely notice it without having to think twice. It'll tremble thorugh your entire body, build up to a spot, then feels like an explosion in you and you go all soft and can't really control yourself and if you think you're loud now... You'll be even louder then.
Masturbate, figure it out. In particular, if you have a massage shower, use the water to stimulate you down there. Most women don't get far with their fingers alone.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (2 March 2013):
 There is definitely nothing wrong with you if you like to moan in pleasure. Moaning can often heighten your sexual experiences and help you focus on the pleasure you're receiving.
As for not having an orgasm, I'm not sure what to say. You may be having one, or you may not. I'd recommend experimenting with masturbation until you can get yourself off. Still, at least it's feeling good, even if you can't seem to finish.
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reader, R1  +, writes (2 March 2013):
 Girls moan when they enjoy sex not only when they orgasm. If you aren't sure you've had an orgasm you have not had one. When you have one you will know 100% so don't worry! I see no problem with moaning etc, its a compliment to your partner!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2013): Moaning doesn't mean orgasm. It means it feels good. You're feeling good.If you know you're not forcing it and you're just reacting naturally it's okay, don't mind it.A lot of guys like it when girls are loud. It makes them feel like they're doing good.How you are while having sex doesn't have to do with how you are outside of it
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (2 March 2013):
 I'd bet you do it to please your partner or at least you think it's pleasing him. It would be effortless if you'd just relax and have an orgasm with him. you say you've not had one with him or alone. i find that hard to understand. Everyone your age has given themselves an orgasm by now. You may want to seek medical advice. Good Luck
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