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writes:i need some help! first of all i wanted to know how to not feel so insecure about myself and hav a vision in my life to achieve a goal? i dnt hava vision i cnt seem myself going any where, even tho i study and wnt a degree i jus have no vision to i duno y! i also wanted to know i hava a gf, we're in a long distant relationship and hava bin together for nine months bt for some reason recently i have been feeling like frustrated and getting angry with her but they are bout petty tings i dnt understand y. As i know they are petty tings i dnt bring it up cuz she recently told me she loved me so i dnt wnt to hurt her,bt i keep feeling it inside can someone help! when i say petty tings i mean like...i never used to mind before bt i feel she doesnt make the effort to meet me, bt i know thats cuz of fam she cnt n i wos geting annoyed that i keep going to see her i chose to do that because i drive n she doesnt so its unfair! jus small tings are building up i dnt wnt to say neting to her its not right and its unfair on her! my mind is messed up i dnt understand wots going on...
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reader, Escalaya  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 I was in a long distance relationship with a girl for about 6 months, and bro, we did the exact same thing. Fought over the stupidest shit in the world. I swear, sometimes our fights were along the lines of, "WHAT!? YOUR SHOES ARE GREEN!!? FUCK YOU!!!" It's stupid. Anyways, best thing to do is learn to control your anger, and think about what the problem is, before you act on it. Then; about the long term goals. I think it's not so much of what you see your self as. More what you WANT to be.Example. I'm a musician; I tour occasionally not big, or well known tours. Self-supported tours. I WANT to continue doing this, i love this. This is what i'm going to keep doing this far into the future, however, it's not what I want to be. I WANT to be a buisness man.Either way, think of what you want to be, and work towards that.
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reader, Ileana +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Hey honey,Set yourself a goal each day when you first wake up, even if its something small like 'Do the Laundry,' after a few weeks of doing that and achieving your goals make them bigger and for the whole month, That should help you there.Not seeing someone for a long time makes it hard, try calming yourself down a little bit before you call her or talk to her, tell her your worried she will understand and make more of an effort if she knows your hurting.Hope everything goes wellAll my loveIleanaxxxx
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