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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have a guy friend who I’ve known for two years. We go out for dinner regularly or maybe to the movies, and he messages with borderline flirty quick witted chat between the two of us. I’m single and he’s been mostly single during the two years (except he had a short lived relationship with a girl overseas that’s coming to an end), Our mutual friends think something has gone on between the two of us (it never has); He’s recently asked me to go on holiday with him and when I moved across the country earlier this year he has made regular trips to see me. He’s even ear marked a guest room for me in the house that he is having built. Told me he will collect me when ever I want to visit.But.... never has ever happened between us. The relationship feels a bit different to the one I have with other guy friends. I can’t work it out, surely if anything was going to happen it would have done by now?
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reader, Trubbling girl  +, writes (27 September 2018):
It kind of depends how do you feel about him. you feelings may be hiding trust me it happened to me an my freshman year I relized how I felt about my best guy friend and now its been almost 2 years. Is there anything he does that makes you get butterflies in your belly. Does he ever go shy about doing something around you like showing his feelings?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2018): Has he never made a romantic-gesture towards you? I didn't read anything that seems necessarily romantic. He seems to have a great trust and fondness for you; but it seems quite friendly, and that's all.
It only feels different from your other guy friends. because HE'S DIFFERENT. We are not all clones and behave alike, because we are men. Personality has a lot to do with how you choose to treat your friends. He seems to hold very high regard and respect for you.
I believe you are over-reading his signals. I'm gay, and I treat my closest female-friends exactly as you have described your friend's treatment of you. I travel with them, and include them at all my celebrations and parties. I have personally escorted them to weddings and chaperoned them out for evenings on the town. I adore them, give them gifts, and treat them as queens. I receive the same royal treatment in return.
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