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writes:You shouldn't leave the one you love for the one you like. but what if i don't LOVE him?Overtime my feelings towards my boyfriend of 5 months have changed. I never really found him physically attractive, and now since we are back at school, i don't even want to be seen with him. Its not that hes ridiculously ugly or anything, its just that hes taller and wider than me. And i would always say i loved him and everything, but after our arguments and knowing that my parents would NEVER accept him as my boyfriend, it just got me thinking that our relationship has no point. He usually always makes me laugh and feel good, but theres always those times where i just want to leave him. My questions are Should i leave my boyfriend? Because i no longer have the same feelings? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 September 2011):
 I agree with Cindy I think you are going to have to end the friendship at least for a while.
he's holding out hope that you will change your mind.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 September 2011):
 That's why staying friends with an ex never works.
Friendship implies a balance and reciprocity of mutual feelings and interest.
But, you treat him as a friend,- or,maybe, more as a sounding board or a shoulder to cry on etc., and he does not care about being " friends ", he sticks around as much as he can just to be able to cop a feel or steal a kiss or maybe make you change your mind. You have different agendas ,and in these conditions friendship is not a good idea.
The best, for the poor guy, would be imposing him No Contact for a while. Not to punish him or to be mean of course- just to help him get over you and move on, if he is always around you how is he going to ever do that ?
When he does, you may be able to resume your friendship - but right now , you should tell him clearly that
you can't be friends and have to part part ways - not forever but until he cools down or he finds another object for his affections.
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reader, SweetLipsX0 +, writes (30 September 2011):
SweetLipsX0 is verified as being by the original poster of the question So its been over a month now, that we've broken up. But he still has feelings for me. I guess the reason he still feels close to me is that...just because we are now exes...we are still like best friends. I don't have a problem being good friends with him, because i just feel comfortable in telling him anything. But he continues trying to kiss my cheeks, lips, and neck. Then like today where i told him i wasn't going to give him just a peck on his lips...he got mad. What should i do?
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (19 August 2011):
He'll get over it. He would have cried even more if he should have found out you are ashamed to be seen with him.
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reader, SweetLipsX0 +, writes (18 August 2011):
SweetLipsX0 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo i broke up with my boyfriend last night....and he cried..
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (17 August 2011):
Of course . Why are you wasting this poor guy's time ? You already misled him telling him you loved him when you did not even know if it was true, now it's only fair you let him free to find someone who is better matched to him. I don't see the point for all these hesitations, you just have been dating for 5 months, it's not like you got married or had kids together so you'd need to think long and hard before breaking your committment. In your case, you'd just do a favour to yourself and to him too.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (16 August 2011):
Yes!It will be doing both of you a favor. The longer you stay the more hurt he will feel when you break up with him and the more you will miss his company. Just be really nice and say that you don't feel that way towards him anymore and that you both deserve ultimate happiness. Good luck and remember you are young. You both need to date more anyway and focus on your own lives. Xoxoxo
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (16 August 2011):
 absolutely you should. you are the same girl who posted the question about seeing a cute new guy in the neighbourhood and wonders is it ok to add him on facebook aren't you? you have definitely lost all feelings for your BF if you are wanting to get with someone else, so do the right thing and let him go, he is probably a nice guy and deserves someone who adores him. you are both not getting what you want and need from your relationship so you should call it a day. don't hurt him by setting up something with new-cute-facebook-guy first
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