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I don't love him like I used to; how can I dump him without hurting him?

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Question - (2 August 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 22 August 2007)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

i'm a sixteen year old girl and in a relationship that isn't exactly fair. i've been going out with this guy for seven months and for the first few months we argueed every week and quit talking. now he's constantly saying that there's no secrets in the relationship and everytime i tell him something he gets mad at me, but he tells me everything and i don't get mad i just feel hurt. i wanna dump him because i don't love him like i used to. can somebody give me some advice on this or a way to dump him without hurting him?

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A male reader, vpdragon0 United States +, writes (22 August 2007):

vpdragon0 agony auntwhy do even say i love you .. love doesnt just disappear instantly.. love is sumthin special.. i cant believe it.. its not true love so why say it at all..

just break up with him.. hes a man. geez

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A male reader, DanBing United Kingdom +, writes (2 August 2007):

DanBing agony auntGreat advice there.

Obviously do it sooner rather than later to avoid hurting him even more!

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A female reader, LauraE United Kingdom +, writes (2 August 2007):

Hi,

You can't dump him without hurting him if he still cares for you. This is just one of those tough things that you have to deal with. The way to handle it with the least hurt to him is to be straight about it. Just tell him that you don't feel the same anymore and want to stop seeing him. Obviously, you will say this sensitively, but don't mix your messages in an attempt to be kind. If you do it in half-hearted way in an attempt to let him down easy, you are risking giving him the wrong impression. He might think you don't really mean it, or might have him back. Don't suggest that you remain best mates either. Of course you will continue to be friendly, but if he still loves you it will be best if he doesn't see too much of you for a while.

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