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I don't love him like he loves me. but I like someone else they way they like me. can some1 help?

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Question - (12 December 2010) 13 Answers - (Newest, 20 December 2010)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hey, im 13 years onld and i have been in a relationship with a 15 year old for about 3 or 4 months now.... we had a relation ship once befor this and it dident work for many reasons. anyways. he says he loves me with all his heart, and he says when we get older he wants to mary me. however, when he gets mad, he gets mad, and im sorta scared of him, and im not so shure i love him the way he loves me anymore. i also feel that hes useing me for sex, but not really sex condisering we havent done anything and he just gets a litte.... well a lot handsy.... but i dont know what to do because iv awalys been one who seems to like an online relationship better. and right now iv been talking and flirting with this guy who lives in a diffrent county, but still the same state.... hes really nice and i really like him, and he likes me too.... and he understands me and hes been raised and taught to treat girls with respect, and he has asked me mutipal times if i would rather be with him or the guy im accually dateing.... however... this guy is 17, and my parents have forbid me from dateing him, but iv been sneaking and calling him and stuff, and i really like him alot, i have no idea if i should let him go and say lets just be friends and stay with the one im with now, or dump the one im with now and secreatally date the other guy, or is there another option? can someone help me?! Thanks so much, XOXO

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010):

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You too!!

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A male reader, jrns96 United States +, writes (17 December 2010):

I'm happy to hear your happy. Hopefully, this situation won't happen again. If it does, remember, Tizzie and I are always here, as well as tons of people much more capable and wiser than myself. Good luck =)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010):

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Heyy guys, thanks for ur help. i am now single... and i accually turned down the online friends offer to date lastnight. u guys helped alott. Thank you so so much 3

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010):

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Thank you very much jrns96, i think ill try that. ill let you all know how things boil over.... when i get up the nerve to do it. lolz. thank you guys :D

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A male reader, jrns96 United States +, writes (13 December 2010):

i hope u dont mind me jumping in here, tizzie :]. uh, just tell him that u dont feel comfortable with his actions toward u. or say that ur going thru some things and feel u cant serve him well as a gf while ur dealing with this. if u successfully seem to turn the blame on urself, he won't think anymore about it. i hope my two cents helped. good luck ;D

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010):

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i dont have reasons to give, an i cnt tell him the truth, hell have a cow!!

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A male reader, Tizzie0612 United States +, writes (13 December 2010):

Tizzie0612 agony aunttalk to him on the phone or txt and just say how you feel. say you think we need to break up for what ever reason you feel yall need to break up for. and say i will glady be your friend because thats what you feel like is best. n yeaa

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010):

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Great, thank you, but one last Q. how do i break up with this guy?

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A male reader, Tizzie0612 United States +, writes (12 December 2010):

Tizzie0612 agony auntyea i hear you. my fault..you do sound very mature. but its like you said with the 17 year old it wouldnt be legal in a few months ..then what? and im happy to see you want to model your relationship after your parents :) but sometimes things just dont work out the way we want them. To each his or her own you know. I say its best to be close friends with the 17 year old and break up with the boy you with now because apparently he doesnt make you feel comfortable and respected which is not a healthy relationship for you.

you ll find someone in due time girl dont worry. and imma assume they will all be older but try stay in the 16 range lol.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010):

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yes Tizzie0612 you are right about him being way older, but fact of the matter is im way more mature than a 13 yearold.... as a matter of fact, everyone that knows me personally says i should be 16. i cant stand younger guys because they are so immuture.... so thats why i go for older. and yes, its leagle, at least for 6 more months. and yes, love is possiable at this age, im looking for the spark that my parents had at 13... they have been togher since 13, moms 32 and dads 35, and they only broke uo 4 times in all those years. thats the kinda relationship i want, not just some tempory well be over next month kinda thing....

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010):

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Thanks for ur help.

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A male reader, Tizzie0612 United States +, writes (12 December 2010):

Tizzie0612 agony auntwooah did you say 17.i mean big age difference maturity wise and yea im not sure if thats even legal..it is best for both of you guys to stay friends but as far as yor boyfriend situation i would say that you are a bit too young for love.you still have all your life for love and date better guys.it seems like he maybe trying to get in your pants at some point but if you dont feel comfortable in a relationship anymore then the safest and best thing to do is leave.

hope that helped a little.

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A male reader, jrns96 United States +, writes (12 December 2010):

im freshman in hiskewl nd i have a friend. "Sarah". she had a bf, "Juan". he got angry easilt and hit her a number of times, even raped her a couple of times. it seems to me like this guy is headinh down that path. he most likely wont hurt u, but maybe he will do a bit of bullying. like calling u ugly nd saying hes the only man who'd ever take u. plzplzplz dont ever believe that. abusive ppl say that to keep u with them. i think u sudd just break it off with the 15 yo, and focus on ur online friend. if u honestly do feel threatened, tell ur parents, or a teacher or counselor. as clichè as that sounds, it works. hope this helps :P ----Joerns

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