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*lairyfairy
writes:I dont fancy my boyfriend anymore. Well ive never really thought he gorgeous not a 100% anyway. I thought i did love him and thought it would grow in time but it hasnt weve been together 5 months. Hes besotted with me and loves me totally and i feel really bad cos i tell him do but i dont. Im just trying not to hurt his feelings. He will be crushed if we split up. I recently had a miscarriage and was going to keep the baby and move in together but it was a blessing i lost it. cos i knew it wasnt at the right time in my life and when we discussed moving in i felt depressed.i didnt want it. I cant help it but i just dont love him and its making me depressed keep pretending. Help what do i do?
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (2 March 2010):
I guess maybe your a perfect 10 if you say he's not gorgeouse. So you thought the love could grow? But I got news. Nothing grows unless the seeds are planted. So what were your seeds with this guy? And why didn't they grow? Answer that question for yourself and then take the awkward moment of letting him go in stride and move on
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reader, glassslippers +, writes (2 March 2010):
I have been in the same position for longer than you have. The longer you stay with him the harder the break-up will be on him. Tell him you didn't mean for it to happen but your feelings have faded, you wish they hadn't but they just did. Tell him you care about him very much but not in a romantic way anymore. It is not his fault and there is nothing wrong with him, you're feelings just aren't the same and you are sorry. That is the best advice I have. Hope this helps.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 March 2010):
 Jeese Louise, just break up with the guy. It's not going to destroy him. You've only been together for 5 months! It's not like you are married or anything. Trust me, he'll get over it and be right as rain in short order.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 March 2010):
If you don't love him, you need to leave him. I'd also suggest that you see a counsellor and really work on your esteem and life again, as losing a baby can be a huge shock. Take your time, don't rush and really spend time on yourself. But no matter how much he loves you, if you don't love him, you must let him go. I wish you all the best
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