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writes:Briefly:As I have mentioned before I am overweight, but am trying to work on it.I know I have a good personality and am caring, considerate etc, am a gentleman and so on.Now here are my questions:I am uni, but I don't like to go out drinking, or be be around people who are drinking a lot. I can't stand it. How then do I meet girls? Just doesn't work in classes or lectures...Also, how can I be more confident?What is it that young women, girls, women in general want from a man?Am I being unreasonable that I want a serious relationship at this stage in my life when most people don't want anything serious?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): I don't like going out and drinking either! :) I think you should consider the suggestions already offered (like the gym, salsa classes, yoga) and also consider joining a book club, or even hanging out in libraries and bookstores. You'll find that special someone :).
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (22 October 2008):
 Hello!
I would suggest sport clubs (where there are both girls and guys involved - like martial arts), choir (you dont have to be a good singer to do this, depends on the specialisation of the choir), also any volunteering and social help clubs I would say.
Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): Seriously the best advice I was ever given is just like TELLULAH said - go to salsa classes! You will be swimming in women. Yoga is another great class to take but salas has the passion and heat - single women can't resist.
Plus if you start hitting up clubs and pubs you will be a demon on the dancefloor
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): I've been reading a bit on how to be more confident around women, and what type of guy gets the most "action".
Basically you need to change how you think about yourself, if you act nervous and awkward around women, they probably won't find you very attractive. When you talk to a female who you fancy, just speak to them as if you've known them your entire life, instead of thinking about how great they look.
The book i've been reading says that looks only makes up 20% of what women look for in a man, the rest is made up of how you dress and how confident you are, i'm not sure how true this is tbh.
If you want to meet females without going down the pub/bar, you should try and take up a female dominated activity, like yoga, or charity work.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (22 October 2008):
 Hi,
I believe that you are looking for a serious relationship, because you think it will be an easier option to working on yourself.
There are many sorts of clubs you could join to make friends, as well as the Gym. But that would be a great start for you. Could I also suggest that you could join a dance class, because they are excellent at keeping you fit as well as being fun to go to. Salsa classes are a brillant way to make friends, especially women. In fact the men are very few and far between, and if you can learn to dance, you will be very much in demand.
The things that women want from men, are everything that you listed. They want a kind, funny and sincere person. And if you have a good personality you are almost there.
Good luck with your diet, and remember rome wasn't built in a day, you have your whole life ahead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): Go to the gym, there is a whole dating scene that goes on there, and you'll be loosing weight as you make more friends both boys and girls. You will meet people you have something in common with, you all want to make your body more beautiful.
Women want different things cause we are all different. But a guy who is friendly, kind, interesting, generous, intelligent, and conscious of keeping himself in shape is always worth a second look. Concentrate on looking after your body and your health, getting a good education, finding hobbies and interests, make friends of all ages and genders and the rest will fall into place. You are still very young, you'll meet someone when the time is right. Stop worrying and concentrate on your own development in life.
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