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female
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51-59,
*ritter
writes:Intercourse VS oral..... Which is better?I don't like having sex but I love giving and receiving oral sex. Is this a problem?
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (2 August 2018):
 At your age you know what you want. If you were younger, I would encourage you to explore more. Now if the idea is to go to your existing partner and say Hey I only want this kind of sex and these internet people say it is ok, well that isn't going to work either. A better approach would be the ladies first model.
I guess I would have little patience with a selfish lover as well.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (2 August 2018):
 Given that close to 80% of women do not experience orgasm on a regular basis during intercourse, I'm not surprised. If your partner is a man who doesn't get through his head that intercourse doesn't feel the same for a woman that it does for a man, I'm REALLY not surprised.
Oral for a woman has a much greater chance of satisfaction, as it doesn't rely on hoping that the man doesn't prematurely ejaculate or lose his erection or cause a big mess.
In your case, never EVER fake a single orgasm, nor pretend you're experiencing pleasure when you're not. This is why men don't get it through their heads that women aren't as into intercourse as they are. The other reason is porn, which too many men (and women) use as educational tools for how sex should be, when it's really fake simulated satisfaction done for the viewers' pleasure, not the partners'.
If your partner is selfish, why are you WITH them? What do you get out of all of this?
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reader, Kritter +, writes (1 August 2018):
Kritter is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yes, my partner is very selfish when it comes down to who gets off and who doesn't. So I make it my priority to please myself.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (1 August 2018):
 It's not a problem if you meet someone who thinks along the same lines as you and has the same preferences.
For most people, oral sex is a "starter" or "dessert", while intercourse is the "main". It's PART of sex but not ALL of it.
I wonder what it is about intercourse you don't like? Have you perhaps spent too much time with selfish lovers, or ones who didn't know how to have intercourse in a way you would enjoy?
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