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anonymous
writes:My boyf and I were together 4 years before i broke it off for one year. I didn't feel our relationship was going anywhere, and felt we needed a break. We got back together 4 months ago, and have recently signed up for a place together (1 year on the lease). I should be excited, but truth is, i am panicking as to whether or not i am doing the right thing.Since getting back together, he has been trying his best to make things work out between us, however, i am just not feeling a spark other than friendship between us. I want to give it time to see whether or not something will grow again, however our sex life is non-existant, as i just can not seem to get myself interested when whe are together.Today i found out a man whom i have had a crush on for two years (but never ever persued, due to being shy) likes me. The truth is, when i found out, my heart sank, i felt gutted that i didnt have the chance to pursue this opportunity. Feeling this way made me feel aweful to my current boyfriend, as i should be feeling flattered, then thankful that i have such a kind and caring boyfriend who is now making the effort that i always wanted in our relationship. Please help me, i dont know whether or not i should move in with him and wait and see, or whether i should end it now and just be single again. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): Hey hun, just saw your question and can totally relate to it as I am in a similar situation with my 3year long bf who wants 2 propose 2 me. It hurts dosnt it the thought of hurting them but u have 2 do whats right for you. The fact that this other oppertunity with the other guy made u feel the way you do suggests that in your heart of hearts you know what is best to do. if u were truly happy with your man you would not have felt like this. even the way in which you write your question suggests that u know what is best-maybe u just need a little nudge to do this. All the best x
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