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writes:Theres this girl i like. I asked her out, she initially said yes, but then backed out the next day, citing she wanted time to think and said we would see over anything happening...This was a couple of months ago and i havent seen much of her since, but we have spoken a couple of times as mates and things seem fine between us, at least on a conversation level... We're not particularly close mates tho i should add, just friendly when we see each other around, or sometimes do sport together.How might things stand between us? I don't want to push the issue of anything, and perhaps as she hasn't come to me since over the issue what she said looks more and more likely like a subtle and kind brush off if you know what i mean... But perhaps from my point of view, there never been what i would call closure on the issue (ie shes never acutally said 'no' to going out with me).We've both got important exams coming up soon and im not going to say anything untill after these. Do you think it might be a good idea to perhaps raise the idea of us going out again? I would only do it very gently, say its all up to her etc etc, not suggest doing anything too 'full on' and relationship-ey. Or would you say she made herself perfectly clear before, and by not coming to me since everything? In a way, half of me says id rather ask her just so that she even says no, cos then at least i'll feel closure on the issue and feel at least then i can accept things. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): I am in the same situation you are in. Except she has said she wanted more time to me twice. i say carefully slip it into a conversation and see what she says. If she says "No", it provides closure.And you have waited long enough to deserve to at least talk about it. The first time she did not make herself clear in my opinion. So carefully ask her and the worst thing she can do is ask for more time. If she does this, somehow say that you cant wait forever on something thats might not even happen and at somepoint you need to draw the line on how long you can wait. Lastly, she might tell you exactly what you want to hear and everything might just work out. So go for it and ask her how she feels about you! But CArefully!!! you dont want to seem pushy.
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