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*3ampfuse
writes:My boyrfriend and I have been together now for about five years, I am 24 and he is 25. We are pretty serious about eachother. Since he was 17 my boyfriend has been living with a woman named Claire. Claire, is his ex- girlfriends' mother. At first, I thought that this was weird, as he was living with his ex-girlfriend and her mother. Just to clarify the situation, he is still in contact with his biological mother, who is more than lovely. Claire, has always been very obsessive over him. Demanding that she spend time with him and not with me. However in the last two years, we have fallen out with eachother, over little things. Since then, she has been acting really strange towards him, almost insestual behviour towards him, as I suppose she is a mother figure. They go to the movies together, and watch films in the house. She buys him expensive gifts, and takes time off work to go shopping with him for the whole day. What worries me is that, when she does not get to spend any time with him, say he is over my house or whatever. She cries, and goes off in a mood. Once I slept over her house, and she sat in her car in the early hours of the morning and cried. I'm pretty sure this obsessive behaiour is abnormal. it's affecting my relationship with my boyfriend, and is exasabated by the fact that now she won't speak or so much as acknowledge my existence. She sends him flirtatious text messages, and I know that I shouldn't find it creepy, but they cuddle up to eachother when they sit down on the sofa. Im not sure whether she wants a son or a boyfriend. Please help me, I'm at my wits end. this woman, treats me like dirt, and smothers my boyfriend. It makes me feel terrible. I have tried confronting her, but she denies everything, and continues her behaviour. I don't know if I want to start a life with him, if she is going to get in the way. Please help
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reader, 13ampfuse +, writes (8 December 2008):
13ampfuse is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, I think I will sit him down and just get it off my chest. I am still a bit nervous about his reaction though. what should i do if he doesn't want to change his situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): Have you talked to your boyfriend? I think you should have a serious chat about how you feel about her and him. How they act together, how she acts when they aren't (crying I guess) etc.
That would go over way better than trying to confront her. If he loves you and wants a future *with you* he will tell the truth.
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