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writes: Me and my bf have had a row during our time off togther. He has gone home and has said he does not want to see me tomorrow but we can hook up on Saturday? Is this okay, i am not happy, we are on our annual leave togther,although maybe we have been getting under eachother's feet a bit?Please help, how do I respond? I don;t know whether I should demand he comes back or be gracious and say 'ok, see you saturday'?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys. It doesnt help that I am ill in bed with some 'virus' type thing. I feel wretched. No fun at all :-(
But probably better he stays away until I can function better again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): Be gracious and tell him you'll see him Saturday. Then let HIM get back to YOU about making plans. Do not follow up. If you don't hear from him, make other arrangements.
Demanding he come and see you when he doesn't want to would make you ridiculous.
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (5 August 2011):
 This really shouldn't be a big deal. Even though you would like him to come on an earlier day, just allow him to come when he wants. He could've chose to come later than expected for whatever reason, but it shouldn't be this big of a deal. Demanding that he sees you whenever you want is just going to make him feel forced to see you and put up with you, and it shouldn't be that way. He should see you because he misses spending time with you. But let this go and enjoy the time you spend together, even if it's not on the days you want it to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): Of course you say OK see you on saturday! What good does it do to force him to see you when he doesn't want to? How is this in any way good for a relationship?a relationship should be where people WANT to be together. If he's only coming over to see you because you forced him and he doesn't want it, do you think this is going to be a pleasant time spent together? shouldn't a relationship be voluntary not forced?
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (5 August 2011):
 If you've 'been getting under each other's feet a bit' - most certainly go with 'ok, see you Saturday'. Hope you enjoy the rest of your holiday.
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