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writes:Dear Agony Aunts,I am a bit confused and I need your advice. So anyways, I have a guy friend. We have been friends for years and he has a gf. Recently his gf when away and our friendship has gotten deeper, I have a sorta crush on him but I'm in experienced with men and besides I wouldn't want to disrespect his relationship as he has a gf. So through talking he's been saying that he wants to have sex and take away my virginity but I've said No all the time cause I want to do things the proper way. I want a guy who is mine and who cares for me . The talk about sex has come up often as daylight and I have arrived at the point where I think he maybe a player as he has no regard for his gf. He keeps saying that he will be faithful when he gets married and he doesn't know where the relationship is going , still he wouldn't break up with her. So I think I cant trust him cause he says that he cannot promise me we would be friends or he wont touch me but I really want to be friends and get past this. So my question is "SHOULD I REMAIN FRIENDS WITH A GUY LIKE THIS" OR "SHOULD I JUST STOP TALKING TO HIM AND JUST END OUR FRIENDSHIP? My Mother thinks I should remain as distant friends and my other friends say to ditch him, please tell me what to do!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 September 2014):
 Since that day you told him your mind, he never told you anything sexual again. But , he's also stopped being friends and you are back to casual acquaintances .
Why am I not surprised :).
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks you guys. We are no longer friends but if I meet him on the road , I would give him a 'good day" and since that day I told him my mind he never brought up anything about sex ...ever again.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (25 August 2014):
No, you should not stay friends, and I am surprised that your mother suggest that - but maybe she does not know the whole story.
Why, do you think he gives a flying f...about being your " friend " ?... He could not have made clearer if he had worn a sign hanging from his neck- he wants to take your virginity, maybe sleep with you a few more times if you are fun enough, AND sray with his gf. It's about sex- easy, convenient, uninvolved , on the side sex - that's all !
He even TOLD you that you can't trust him not making moves on you, - what, do you want to trust him when HE says not to trust him ?
Ok being not experienced with men... but, that 's just being stubborn :).
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2014): Your "real" friends are correct. DUMP HIM!!!
Not sure why your mother would suggest you remain friends with a guy pressuring you for sex, and trying to cheat on his girlfriend? If you can't trust him, what kind of friend would he be anyway? He's just on a mission to take your virginity.
First off, knowing you're a virgin; and he will just keep trying to get into your pants. Now you know the type of guy he really is; and maybe that's not the kind a person you want to consider a friend. Get as far from him as you can.
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