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I don't get it! Am I being unreasonable? He excludes me from parts of his life.

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Question - (25 August 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 26 August 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Ive just ended my relationship with my boyfriend because we want different things but now im doubting my decision!

Weve been together nearly a yr her 30 im 28 I have a daughter and he has a son. The thing is he doesnt want no more children and I do, he doesnt believe in marriage and I do, and he lives half hr away from me and says he is never ever leaving that house!

Now he has a job in my area so 5 nights a week he stayed with me at my house I cook his tea every night, do his washing, make his sarnies for work etc!

He doesnt offer to give me any money! And then every weekend he has his son. So he stays at his house with him. He never asks if I want to go and stay he seems to think that he has to spend every single second with his son, and then he doesnt hardly contact me at all.

The only time we would have together on our own is when my parents would babysit for me so we could go out. He would never do that on a wk end im not even aloud to ask cos hes with his son. Hes says he likes time to himself and never plans anything with me and if I do ask if I can go its like hes not bothered!

I feel very lonely and unloved as I do everything 4 him. The conversion about the future kept coming up and he said he doesnt want any children and he is just blank about it. He says things take time to grow but also says that it would be yrs before we lived together!

And yet he says he wants to be with me long term I dont get it! So ive ended cos I feel used abit too. Im thinking hes got a easy life dont u? And wants to carry on in this situation hes says we should enjoy being together and see what happens, its not right is it?

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (26 August 2011):

eyeswideopen agony auntI would have done exactly the same thing if I were in your shoes. I don't think you were getting the fair end of the stick. If he comes around to your way of thinking and changes his behavior, well fine, but I wouldn't waste any more time on this relationship.

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