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writes:HelloI wonder if anyone could be of assistance please, (for all who are unaware) I have previously posted two questions with regards to the situation that I’m in at the minute.Basically I have liked this girl for two years, we have been great friends and everyone told me that they thought she may be in love with me. I was very confused by her actions (and I'm still confused now) after a couple of months of being unsure I requested advice from this excellent website! Everyone confirmed that she definitely liked me, so I felt that due to my age (15) I would continue to get to know her and then when I was nearly 16 it would be appropriate to possibly ask her out. A week after posting, things took a turn as she broke up with her boyfriend and I finally got 10 minuets with her alone. I missed a great opportunity to make a move as I just stood and smiled at her and because of that she ignored me for the rest of the week, as she expected me to make a move! Again I posted a post on this excellent website and I got great reply’s that advised me to take a move as soon as possible (otherwise I guess I would have lost her) and that brings me to today!Today I asked her for her number whilst she was with friends, initially she said she didn’t know her number so I gave her mine, then her friends whispered to her and then they giggled for a while and then she gave me it and said ‘oh but I haven’t got any credit’, after that she was quiet and well didn’t say much or even smile! Her friend said ‘are you going to get together’ but we both just froze and kind of ignored her and then walked off.I text her tonight and haven’t had a reply so I guess obviously she was out of credit, but still I don’t know if that was a positive or negative outcome today?Things haven’t been the same since that day I didn’t make a move she still ignores me sometimes, I just still don’t get her actions? I’m really confused? Any one who can understand what is going on please respond, as I’m an amateur when it comes to relationships.As always any help would be appreciated please.Thank you for your time!
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (6 March 2007):
 I ate it when I text people and they don't text back. :) But since you knew she didn't have credit you should've called instead of texting. Why don't you call her and talk to her and get into conversation and casually bring up the possibility of you going to see a movie together? Since she gave you her number I think she is interested in you but she's just shy or embarrassed. She was around her friends at the time wasn't she? So maybe she was embarrassed and that's why she went quiet. Maybe that's how she deals with it. Don't take it personal.
Talk to her and arrange to meet up and spend some time together, the more time you spend with her the more you'll get to know her and understand her and things will become a lot clearer. (Also jokingly tell her to get credit next time). Good luck :)
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reader, vegetarian_ham  +, writes (6 March 2007):
Her reaction may have been distorted by her friends. Sometimes people are hesitant to confirm an interest in the presence of other people. She may well be really into you, but has a neutral response to avoid embarrassment. I'd suggest approaching her alone next time, people act a lot differently when they're by themselves.She might also not know what you're implying. Since you've been friends, she might think that you want her number because you want to have a closer friendship, hang out more. If this was the case, she probably kept neutral so that she wouldn't get hurt, or be shown as too enthusiastic.I would suggest making your intentions clearer, maybe approaching her when she's by herself!Best of luck,-Caitlin
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