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anonymous
writes:Hi, I'm 27 and i've never had a girlfriend. Thing is i know a girl i met in college last year (she's 21), i honestly don't find her physically attractive, but her personality blows me away, in that respect she is truely beautiful. Because i have no experience with girls i don't know what to do. I'm sorry if I seem shallow but i don't find her that attractive "physically", however in terms of personality i think she's unbelievable.Is that enough, or do i need to find her looks irristisable as well?Please answer honestly, I don't fancy her, but do i love her?????????My sheltered upbringing confuses me. (in case it helps i'm broke and have no future to offer her).Please help my (virgin??????) confusion.
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reader, answers4u +, writes (22 February 2007):
 hiI don't think that physical attraction is what matter because u can fall for someone because of their personality.Even thought u might not have experience with girls u can learn so go for it and ask her out . U also don't nees to offer her anything but heart and normally that's what girls want. I hope it goes well for u
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): Over a period of my personal research on women, i think that i can continue to respect only those women who have quite a decent personality. I mean i do find women who surrender to my sexual urges attractive, but then i wouldn't even care to think about them once the act is over. How can i expect to live with someone whom i consider worthy only during bed time. If i was living in primitive man's age, that would just be fine, as i would be hunting and the girl would help me with my sexual needs. But in these times, just an attractive women would make no sense to me other than being an object of my fantasies. Personality does matter for me to have any communication or relationship with the opposite sex.
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reader, pepper  +, writes (17 February 2007):
Personality for me will always be the major attraction. I have always looked for real substance in men or women even in normal friendships. I have to a have good laugh with people and could be able to tolerate them for few good hours before i say "ahh they are on the same wave length". Frienship is always good before any relationship starts(with anyone anywhere anytime)so depends what you are looking for??
If I was in your shoes...i would give this friendship more a chance, there is no pressure...so take your time. You might think that you see her more attractive with each passing day or you may think that its best left it as a friendship.
I wouldn't jump into a relationship with someone just because the are physically more attractive. But that's because I am a woman (and wiser LOL) and choose my partner carefully. Men are wired differently i guess.
All the best with your hunt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): Hi ya dont worry about not having experience i honestly think that u should go for it. U seem 2 really like this girl by descrbing her personaility. Physical looks mean nothing yes they can help but in real life if u couldnt see would it matter??? Its all about the communiation,the laughs that u experience together. So go for it. And with u being a virgin dont worry about that get to know each other first and see how things go if u really like her then u an take it to the next level but 4 now just worry abt getting to know each other. best of luck.
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