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writes:I am in my early 30’s and I have a one year old baby girl. She is the best thing that ever happened to us. The problem is that when I was eight months pregnant her father called me a spic, and when she was only eight days old I was kick-out of the house. And during the time he kick me out, I found-out he slept with another woman, in the same bed him and I used to make love in. And all in all, I took him back, and we went to counseling, but my feelings for him have change, and I also don’t trust him. It’s been one year sense he had that one night stand,(so he say) but I can’t forgive him for that or calling me a spic. Just a couple of days before Christmas I asked him, “Why he loves me? And his response was” because you are the mother of my child”, I said to myself this is not the man for me. I have no respect for him, no trust for him, and I really can’t stand him. All my friends and family members are telling me, I should move on, and let this loser go, but all I think about is my little girl all I ever wanted was a family with this man. Now all I want is out. Confuse, Help!
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reader, pinkipod109 +, writes (1 January 2009):
 I don't know if this guy appreciates you as much as he should. You took him back after he kicked you out, and had a one night stand. He should be grateful. He should be sorry. And he should love you not only because you are the mother of his child, but because you are his wife, and he made a promise to be with you forever. My mother has been single all my life, and we're doing just fine. She even calls me spoiled (though, i don't really think so. i mean, its not my fault really). Maybe you can have the same luck. However, for your daughter, wait at least 3 months. Try something else. If in 3 or 4 months he hasn't changed, you need to go. Your daughter will want to grow up seeing you happy, not trapped in a loveless marriage. She'll look up to you more knowing you're strong enough to support yourself through life. I know I look up to my mother.
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (31 December 2008):
 I feel your counselling before may not have helped as much as they could have done sometimes we need to see different counsellors before we get the right one that will be able to help their is many issues going on here and i don't feel any of them have been resolved you both have to ask what it is you wnat from this relationship truly want! he needs to be making promises to stay faithful and to keep that promise! if you can sort through this and many of the other issues you have then you may be able to save your marriage nothing is beyond repair it may never feel the same once broken that is up to both of you how willing and abled you both are to put it right again.
Gina
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reader, blackroses2989 +, writes (31 December 2008):
 I think you need to talk to your husband about this a lot more. Go back ot counseling and maybe try just a little more, Give it about six months to year, if you still can't manage to work things out, then perhaps you should moe on. The best of luck!
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