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*Jess*
writes:Hi. I'm just looking for a bit of advice, like everyone else, and I feel uncomfortable talking to anyone else about this. I broke up with my boyfriend about two weeks ago because he moved away at the beginning of september, we tried to do the long distance thing but it was just too difficult. I sort of dragged it out for a while because I really didnt want to break up with him. The thing is, I know I had valid reasons for breaking up with him (i needed him to be there for me and he couldnt be) but it was possibly one of the hardest things I've ever had to do because I only broke up with him for practical reasons, I still felt the same way about him as I did before he left. And I know it will be the best thing for us in the long run, we weren't going to be together forever and so it was a lot of unnecessary hurt and waiting, just being together but apart. But now I miss being with him him so badly. I keep thinking that I wish we were still together and then I tell myself that it wouldnt bring anything good. The thing I want the most is to be with him, and have him here. It was so amazing before he left. He made me happier than Ive ever been. And I know theres no way I can get it back. He was my first serious boyfriend, so I guess that makes it worse. But what Im hoping you can help me with is how to get over it. I don't know how or where to start. I just want to be happy again :( please help xx
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reader, *Jess* + ♥, writes (25 November 2007):
*Jess* is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you!!!! xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2007): Life brings challenges that are tough to overcome and this seems like one for you, but time is the great healer, and things will get better. It is not a good idea to just try to forget - that will be much too difficult. Try to think to yourself, that you did have a great time and yes you still like him, but there are still other people out there waiting for you. And gradually, gently the old ache will fade.You could try to involve yourself in some fun activities - do you like sport, music, art, drama??? Join a club and have fun...And meet new people!You will be happy again darling. As they say it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. At least you have felt those blissfully happy feelings, unlike some more unfortunate people.Try a smile... x x x
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