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writes:hi all i posted yesterday but am telling you how it continued, because im so confused. ive been with my husband for 13 years we have children together. ive felt for years that things have been very one sided and that i wasnt respected so nearly a year ago i asked for a separation. just after this while out with friends i met a younger guy 6 years to be precise he was single and no children. although nothing happened there was instant chemistry i was honest with him from the start told him i was married and have children but he still wanted to exchange numbers. so for the past 11 months we have texted each other although its probably been slighty one sided and i have texted slighty more he knows that im still having probs in my marriage. we started sending pics to each other which he started because he said he found me very attractive so i obliged because i was enjoying the compliments after i sent stuff. just recently he only seemed to contact when wanting me to send something sometimes sexual. havent heard anyhing from him for 2 weeks also i wished him happy valentines for fun but he didnt reply. one of the aunts on this site said maybe it scared him so to set the record straight i text him yesterday to explain it was a bit of fun and that nothing was meant and that i hoped he was ok but he never replied? i was so confused that late last night i left him another mssg to say im going through a lot at the moment so i wouldnt be texting him again because im confused about what he thinks of me. he never replied to that either i feel such a fool because he knows i was vunerable i feel silly now for sending him the last mssg what do you think? and from any males do you know what is going on in his head? any comments from anyone would be much appreciated x x
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (24 February 2008):
 Men will show you through their actions what is going on in their heads. You texted him on Valentines day and you got no reply. That is your answer: He does not view this as a relationship. You decided that you didn't like that answer so you texted him again to explain why you did it because so he wouldn't be "scared" and respond to you differently. He is not "scared" or he wouldn't send you sexual texts when he wants something from you. He did not respond to you again.
So....you send him another text hoping to get a different response by telling him you are cutting the texts because you are going through a lot. He still didn't respond because his answer is still the same and you are not listening to it.
You shouldn't feel like a fool but you should ask yourself why you keep getting into one-sided relationships? You are recreating the same type of relationship you have with your husband. You are trying to change these men who don't want to change when you should be trying to change and improve yourself so you can be happier in the future. You deserve a 2-sided relationship and when you really believe that, you won't put up with this type of behavior.
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (24 February 2008):
 Hi,
I don't think it should have been too scary for him to get a valentine text from you. It wasn't silly of you to text him to try and tell him how you think and feel, it is silly of him though, to not tell you what is on his mind. If he doesn't want anything more from you he should be able to tell you at least that. I'm afraid it might be just as Mandy says, it doesn't seem like he is too serious, sorry to say that. Trust your gut feeling here and stop texting now as you feel like doing. I believe you are a very attractive woman and there will be others around waiting for a chance to get to know you when you are over with your separation. Keep your head up!
Wish you all the best and keep us updated!
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reader, sue88 +, writes (24 February 2008):
Hey i think what you said is fair enough, but do leave it there. be strong give it a week or 2 if he's gonna contact it will be within then, and if you contact him you might just blow that chance. if he hasn't got in contact with you by then, am sorry to say, get on with your life cos he obviously wasn't worth your time, energy and worry.
Keep your chin up and remember there IS someone out there a better match for you.
Good Luck and let me no how it turns out
Sue
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): Hi Hunny
He wanted piccys of you and Im going to be blunt here they may well have been for him to show off sweetheart Ive come across this with a few guy mates of mates I personally think they are bloody tits and have told them so..Anyway I belive hunny without upsetting you that you should stick to your plan of not texting this man anymore, He has probably got a g/f at mo and thats why the txts have slowed down they may start coming again when he has no one any more..Sweetheart you are an attractive and caring person and are having a bad time at the moment you are also vunerable, You need to get that self esteem back hunny and I havent told you these things to upset you Ive told you to protect you Im going to send you a link for self esteem hunny.http://www.selfesteem4women.com/index.php
If you need a chat at any time please message me Ive been through 3 divorces love and Ive not been treated very nicely by my ex spouses so I no how that feels PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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