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writes: I cheated on my boyfriend yesterday with one of my ex. I love my current boyfriend and i couldn't get away with it. I know it sounds bitchy and i know cheating is voluntary and all that shit, but i truely feel guilty and regretted. I wanna make up to him and minimise the harmfulness.What should I do to continue our relationship, if there's still chance? Or if there's none, how am i suppose to move on? please help!
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reader, DV1  +, writes (28 July 2013):
 Let him go be happy with someone else. You don't respect him at all, and aren't ready to be in a relationship. That's the best way for him to deal with it. You see, if he forgave you, in your subconscious, you'd lose respect for him as a man, more than you already have. The very best thing that you could do, out of respect for him, is to let him have the chance to go find someone that respects him, someone who can handle being faithful. I wholeheartedly believe that person cannot possibly be you right now. That might be hard to hear, but it's true. Deep down, you know that if it happens again, whether it's because you're drunk, or because of some other lame excuse, you're going to do it again, because deep down, if he forgave you, you'd feel like you could. Please let him go find happiness elsewhere.
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reader, theres_always_a_loophole +, writes (26 July 2013):
 The sooner you tell him, the better. There is always a chance he'll forgive you. However, don't expect it to be one of those things where you apologize and everything is instantly okay. Cheating is very hurtful, and it takes a long time for the trust to be fully back in a relationship where there was infidelity. So if you're serious about wanting to make it up to your boyfriend and you really love him, you'll cut your ex out of your life for good. You obviously can't be friends, otherwise this wouldn't have happened to start with.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (26 July 2013):
 Its very clear u still want ur ex. Split with ur bf (hell be p^^^ed trust me) apologize n move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2013): you cant minimize the harmfulness, you cheated on him. A relationship is about commitment and trust and you broke that. If he leaves you you'll have to deal with the consequences as you should, getting over him is a process. When people say only time can mend a broken heart, its 100% true. i'd suggest you surround yourself with loved ones and friends who will be there to support you, take you out and make you feel better but do not mope and sit around being depressed( you're going to want to) cause that's the slowest way to get him out of your mind. If he gives you another chance. Things most likely wont be the same. its like when you buy a new mirror, its pristine and perfect but once you shatter that mirror, you can for the most part put it back together but you will always see the cracks and some pieces may be missing. You're just going to have to give him time, do whatever you can to gain his trust. hope this helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2013): You are going to have to tell him the truth otherwise it is just going to eat away at you and then he will soon notice something is wrong even if he does split up with you at least you have been honest
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