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writes: I'm in a long distance relationship and I've cheated on my bf but have come clean with him. Our relationship didn't start off as long distance and it was when he was here I cheated on him. He says that he has gotten passed it but with him gone now we some to be fighting more than usual and I wonder if it's because he doesn't trust me anymore. Sometimes I get lonely and miss him and think about about cheating again and it scares me because I don't want to put him through that pain again, but since he's left it's been so hard. How do I put aside all these thoughts and make things between us work while he's gone... because I do love him but we're not used to being apart like this...especially when he's too busy to call or e-mail me. How do I stay strong and make it until he returns without cheating on him? Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2006): the fact he argues with you a lot tells me he has,nt gotten over it and may never he may even try to even the score somehow. the fact that you say youre thinking about cheating on him again tells me you need something that your bf is not giving you. so i would say cheat away to get it out of your system but i would,nt tell him of your affairs this time trust me you,ll feel a lot better with yourself
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2006): arguments probably are cos of cheating if you love him enough you wont cheat if you dont then you probably will how about not focusing on missing him so much and time will go quicker try spending time doing a hobby or with friends just go with the flow you have to earn his trust back but dont suffocate him all the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2006): thanks gals for the advice. i think it's about time i showed him i have changed and i guess this distance is like a massive test and i'm going to try my best.
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reader, confussed jane +, writes (1 October 2006):
i am same as you hun i cheated on my bf as well and were back we seem to arguee more now i suppose it make it harder yes but if you love each other you can get through it and work it out hun we sorta have well were gettin there i dont know how to make it stronger i am sorry i ant much of a help just thought tell you that your not the only one with relactionship problems.we also have distance which i think makes it harder still and more likly to cheat.
me and my bf are lucky if see each other once every month sometime two if very lucky.it makes it really hard but i think makes the love stronger.
good luck
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reader, Toria +, writes (1 October 2006):
 Because you've cheated makes your relationship hard being long distance because he probably sees it that if you can cheat when he is there for you then you can when he isn't, also with long distance the missing and not being with that person as much really hurts and the tension of it causes arguements.
You have to remember that you love him and want things to work, cheating is something you can control noone is too weak to say no.
Good luck :o)
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