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writes:im stick in a rut.i still cry over a break up that happened a year ago. it sneaks up on me and i cry for hours.i messed up a relationship; i cheated on him and we ended. i didnt lie to him and cover it up; i was honest with him on the reasons i had done it and that i had done it.and i feel horrible for having hurt someone so much and having been a cheater because i never wanted to ever become a cheater because i have seen and felt what cheaters do.and i need to stop crying because he's not coming back but he won't leave my life either.i need some help.
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reader, Emilysanswers  + ♥, writes (18 August 2008):
Have you told him how much pain he is causing you?
If he cared about you he would agree to cut contact for a while at least. Tell him how much harm he is causing by refusing to give you space, and tell him you'll be in touch at Christmas but you don't want any contact till then.
If he still doesn't get the message then find out about a restraining order. He may just be arrogant / stupid enough to think you don't know what is best for you... the threat of a court order on his records may show him that you are serious.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have tried really hard to get him to leave me alone. i've cut all ties, blocked him from my online life, but he still manages to get in.
and i have learned and been with people since it and im going into a relationship with a new person.
and he tries really hard to be my friend and maintain himself in my life. because he doesn't let people go. and he never says never regarding us ever dating again.
because i say never again; its over, i dont want a possibility of us ever happening again.
and i know i dont know that are sure but it helps me. and i would love him to leave me alone and say never again but he wont because he wont let me go.
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (17 August 2008):
You say he won't leave your life.... Make him.
You need to be rid of this man so you can kick yourself up the arse and move on. Yes you did a bad thing but you don't have to be inprisoned for ever. Learn from it, learn from the reasons you did it and move on.
Cut any ties you have to him and really try to get on and meet new people. You can get over him but you have to put effort in to do so.
Good Luck!! xx
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