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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (20 August 2011):
 I can imagine that it must be aweful. the best thing can can do is make yourself mentally and emotionally independent from him. revenge is useless. I read something recently. You should imagine yourself looking directly at his face and smile and keep on smiling and trying to be happy while looking directly at his face. imagine there are a number of ropes connecting you to hime and imagine cutting those ropes. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-having-an-affair-the-sex-is-non.html
Why have the good Aunts not made the link between this post and the link above.
OP if u want to be taken seriously then u need to also admit to your affair.
LoveGirl
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reader, bunnyblueeyes  +, writes (19 August 2011):
 Getting revenge won't make the pain go away. It will only make you feel worse.
The best thing for you to do, (and I know its not as easy as it sounds) is to turn away and make a beautiful life for you and you're child, showing him that you're strong.
I'm sorry you've had to go through this pain.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): I don't mean to offend you but I read your previous post and it appears like you are the same person who earlier posted that she can't stop having sex with her supervisor. And that your husband stopped his affair after 2 months.
Here is the link:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-having-an-affair-the-sex-is-non.html
Therefore, you are having an affair now and is having sex non-stop. If your husband stopped his cheating, so should you.
Your husband might have pushed you to have an affair so therefore you have already done your revenge and you should not be asking how to teach him a lesson. Learn the lesson yourself. And if you can't save the marriage then your relationship is over and you two must go your separate ways.
Be careful when posting questions here that contradict each other because it would appear that you yourself is not being truthful on this website.
Best of luck to you.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (19 August 2011):
 Well, lessons like that are not easily taught short of having him read up on Lorainna Bobbit.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (19 August 2011):
 It is a terrible thing he has put you through but like many people have said below revenge is not the answer. Why would you want to spend your time plotting against him ? if he has done this to you then simplely was your hands of him as Unknown said be successful and show him the reason why he is sorry to lose you, you deserve so much better.
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reader, moedestiny  +, writes (19 August 2011):
moedestiny is verified as being by the original poster of the questionohi aunty bimbim, were both expats here. im working and earned more than him. its a long story to tell yet GOD knows im badly wounded. :'(
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (19 August 2011):
 I agree with "unknown2u". The best form of revenge is your own success.
I dont know how you are situated in the UAE but if you are able to get a job or an education and pursue your own dreams, building a life for yourself and your child that would be great.
If you are not able to even leave him you can still aim for success in other ways, even while still being married. If you need help and advise it seems that his friends who helped open your eyes might be able to be there for you to talk and bounce ideas off while you decide what to do.
Good luck, life does get better, sometimes it just takes a little bit longer than we hope
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reader, moedestiny +, writes (19 August 2011):
moedestiny is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondevasted. my world is crushed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): Your poor thing - that must have been awful
Best thing you can do is to be carefree happy and successful, enjoy your child and your time together
Dont do anything in anger - and I know its tempting - you will only hurt yourself in the long run. He really isn't worth it is he?
Good luck x
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (19 August 2011):
 HI
Sadly for you to try to teach him the hard way will only push you further apart, as tic for tac never accomplishes anything but more heartache. Tell him you need time apart to think about things as his broke your trust for him.You have a child together and you both owe it to your child to try and work through this, however if you feel there is no turning back, then just let him go and dont try to get revenge because it will always backfire. Also you must MUST still allow him to see his child because your child has done nothing wrong. I know how upset you are right now and this is a main reason you should NOT do anything in haste.
xx
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reader, unknown2u  +, writes (19 August 2011):
The best lesson you can teach him is to move on, successfully rebuild your life, and find a quality man to act as a loving father to the child. Show him just what the cheating cost him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): You can either do the same thing to him, which i think is wrong because your being just like him or just leave him, someone who cheats once will continue to,he hasnt really appreciated you and you should find someone that will,someone that wont go looking for someone else.
Show him your not going to tolerate that.
Good luck :)
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