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writes: So a little over a year ago, my uncle introduced me to a certain guy. I finally met someone that I care very deeply about. He's wonderful. Funny, intelligent, caring, and we have a lot of the same interests and great conversations. I'm starting to develop really strong romantic feelings for him, and I think he feels the same way. But I know he's too old for me. I'm 17, and he's 23, turning 24 in three months. This is really killing me. I know my family wouldn't approve, my friends think it's odd, but the age doesn't bother me at all. I've never felt like we were in seperate stages (even though I guess most would say we are) or that we have nothing to relate to with one another.I know that 6/7 years isn't a huge age gap, but when one of us is 17 apparently it's a godawful thing. 17 is the legal age of consent where I live, but I don't think I'll be considered a true adult until 18, so until then I'm stuck in this situation.I would love to be able to just throw away my feelings and go chase after some other guy my age, but I can't. I care way too much about him to just forget about it. Right now we're only good friends (nothing wrong with that, right?) and a bit flirty.He's the only guy I've ever met who's made me feel so great about myself. He tells me how beautiful and great he thinks I am, how much fun he has when we hang out, etc. I know it seems weird that a 23 year old would seem interested in a 17 year old, but I know he's not one of those creepy-older-man-types. My uncle and quite a few relatives have known him and his family for a while, and think he's a great guy.But I know if I ever wanted to start a relationship with him (and I do) it would cause too much of a problem for everyone else.What should I do?
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reader, reassuring rani +, writes (30 April 2006):
dear anonymous well if you have nothing to relate to you can already see that this realationship is going down hill but if you truly love him ask him if he wants to go out and destiny will decide!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2006): Give it some time to learn more about him. Wait till your 18-19. Also keep in mind your life goals go to college learn more about life and the surrounding world. There are billions of people on the planet, and you may have found the right one but take your time. Even though 7 years does not seem like a huge diffrence you are still developing and trying to figure out the world around you.
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