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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years now, and i moved in with his parents and his brother 1 year ago.I think that his brother likes me but i hope I'm just being paranoid. Every time he gets drunk he finds a way to come talk to me and says things like "I'm so glad my brother found you", "if i found a girl like you i would settle down anytime", "When i first saw you i thought you were hot", "Every time i see you walk through the door i get happy." My sisters also tell me that he's always staring at me. He makes me feel uncomfortable and I feel like his brother is disrespecting my boyfriend. Do you think I'm making a big deal about it and just being paranoid, or is his brother crossing the line and i should let my boyfriend know?
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (26 February 2010):
Sounds like your BF's brother definitely has a crush on you. Have some pity, you live with him, he can't escape you. Maybe you could try just talking to him (when he's sober). Just tell him you don't think the things he says to you when he's been drinking are appropriate and they make you uncomfortable. Tell him you are concerned about his drinking and you think he needs to slow down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe first time he made a weird comment my boyfriend was in the restroom, the second time and third times i was getting home from work and he started a conversation with me followed by those remarks. my bf works from 5pm to 5am so he's hardly ever home, and now i just try to keep myself busy so that i'm never there. It's frustrating. I pretty much roll my eyes at him but i guess i have to be upfront with the brother. I guess i was just trying to avoid confrontation & drama, especially because I'm living in their house. i need to get out. Thank you all for your great responses.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): he is taking the piss and you need to raise this issue with your boyfriend asap! I would not be happy if my sister would do that to me, luckily my sister and I have never done that and I trust her never to do that! Its an awful situation to be in, but enough is enough. Your boyfriend's bro needs to be told that is wrong and unfair! He sounds like a sleeze bag!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 February 2010):
You're not being paranoid. He is crossing the line. The alcohol doesn't make it easier, but it's worth telling him what he is doing and that he needs to stop. If he doesn't then tell your boyfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): I don't know. People say dumb things when they are drunk. Any guy will notice if any girl is hot. Usually if it's your brothers girl you notice it when you first see her and train your mind to not think of her that way. My brother for instance has an attractive wife and I'm sure he thinks my fiancé is attractive but neither one of us would ever say anything more than that.Then again, neither one of us ever gets wasted like it seems your boyfriends brother does. Be careful because if you do tell him your boyfriend might get upset but might feel weird confronting his brother on it. And since he can't let his anger out on him you might be the person he vents on.I would let the ones that happened be in the past. Where is your bf when he says these things? My advice is next time when he says something like that tell your bf. "hey, your brother just told me something weird..." when he asks what tell him. If he says, "he's just drunk..." calmly tell him he always says stuff like that. If you can live with it I would say just avoid him when he's drunk.
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reader, rcn +, writes (25 February 2010):
 I think he's crossing the line, and where alcohol is involved it may be something that you may have to worry about later, if you don't. I won't say, for sure that he would try to get more physical with you, but by these signs there's always a possibility of, therefore raises concerns.
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