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I can't understand his "on" and "off" signals

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Question - (28 October 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 28 October 2012)
A male India age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I am a gay guy having a crush on another guy.. but the problem is he was flirting with me for quite some time, and at the beginning I was not sure of it. From time to time he gives out certain looks at me. We enjoy being together, he calls me to go shopping, we stand very close to each other and hug etc.. but I when I try to approach him he turns very formal. I can't understand this on and off signals. I know for sure he is gay and have seen him quite intimate with another guy, and tried to respond likewise, but don't know what to do.

Is he only a friend to me?? Am I reading too much into this?? How do I know..?? (cause I have MAJOR crush...!!)

Thanks in advance...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2012):

This is tricky , because you obviously are close friends and you do not want to lose that .

The best way forward is to tell the truth , and be prepared for the response either way . The good news is you sound emotionally compatible ...wait till you go for lunch / dinner and say how you feel ..and focusing on the positives you have .Chances are he feels the same .

Good luck .....

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A female reader, Fairyagonyaunt United Kingdom +, writes (28 October 2012):

Hey,

It seems to me that his response to your signals could be one of two things.

Firstly, he could have a crush on you too however he might have slight feelings for someone else which therefore results in him turning formal when you try and approach him, the only way you are going to find out if he likes you is to ask him, if your nervous about doing this you should gradually go into asking him this for instance, make yourself a bit more flirtatious around him and tell him things that will make him feel good about himself, or you could just jump to the point and ask him if he feels anything for you?

Secondly, he might just be playing hard to get people do this to try and make people work for them, in this situation you could, if you really liked this guy, really work hard to get him compliament him and make him feel like he can confide in you.

Hope it all goes well :)

Fairyagonyaunt

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